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My husband and I both work at night. What we do currently is we have opposite schedule to take care of our baby boy at night. We only work three nights a week twelve gour each shift. My husband wants us to work the same nights so we have same nights off. My sister volunteers to take care of the baby one night and my mom also for one night. My mom also takes care of the baby during the day when im sleeping.
Currently, my mom inlaw can take care of the baby on weekends but my sis inlaw is gonna have a baby soon. She lives wih my parent in law and not married. I suggested to my husband that maybe my mom inlaw can take care of our baby on saturday nights. My husband got mad saying "no she cant shes gonna be too overwhelmed". Then we started fighting. Hes saying that my sister should help more since she lives with us. What do you guys think?
My husband and I both work at night. What we do currently is we have opposite schedule to take care of our baby boy at night. We only work three nights a week twelve gour each shift. My husband wants us to work the same nights so we have same nights off. My sister volunteers to take care of the baby one night and my mom also for one night. My mom also takes care of the baby during the day when im sleeping.
Currently, my mom inlaw can take care of the baby on weekends but my sis inlaw is gonna have a baby soon. She lives wih my parent in law and not married. I suggested to my husband that maybe my mom inlaw can take care of our baby on saturday nights. My husband got mad saying "no she cant shes gonna be too overwhelmed". Then we started fighting. Hes saying that my sister should help more since she lives with us. What do you guys think?
I know a couple where one works day shift and the other night shift so they can alternate looking after their children. I, personally don't think it's fair to impose on people's kindness to have them look after your kids all the time. Can you look into childcare options etc and changing shifts?
Maybe you & hubby could sit down and work out a plan that will also leave you both with time to nurture your relationship, & sometimes sacrifices have to be made? What arrangements had you agreed on prior to having the baby?
Perhaps, you should look for better jobs so you can actually pay people to care for your child instead of begging for free child care from relatives.
Or continue to work opposite nights so that you and your husband can take care of your own child.
I normally wouldn't give such harsh advice but I agree with this! It seems very hectic and too many different babysitters going on! All to accommodate a schedule you and hubby seemed to have for a reason(to take care of baby). If your hubby says no for his mom to watch on Saturdays then that is it. Don't proceed. If you don't feel your sister should watch the baby then you tell him no and that is it.
If it is a option then try to eventually switch schedules for daytime so you can get a actual babysitter. Or if a family member can be available to be the actual caretaker then that is good too but it shouldn't be something they have to do to please you and hubby.
Child is your responsibility not others. If others like they can help. But mostly it is yours. As some members suggest better to get a good job where you can hire some one or as a mother you work bit less. I know a family they do always opposite shifts and they meet some times at the station and exchange the kid. I know it is tiresome and exhausting
My husband and I both work at night. What we do currently is we have opposite schedule to take care of our baby boy at night. We only work three nights a week twelve gour each shift. My husband wants us to work the same nights so we have same nights off. My sister volunteers to take care of the baby one night and my mom also for one night. My mom also takes care of the baby during the day when im sleeping.
Currently, my mom inlaw can take care of the baby on weekends but my sis inlaw is gonna have a baby soon. She lives wih my parent in law and not married. I suggested to my husband that maybe my mom inlaw can take care of our baby on saturday nights. My husband got mad saying "no she cant shes gonna be too overwhelmed". Then we started fighting. Hes saying that my sister should help more since she lives with us. What do you guys think?
I think you and your husband should work out the shifts so one of you is with your child at all times instead of someone else being with your child.
You and your husband chose to have a child which means you and your husband have chosen to be responsible for that child at all times. So count on yourselves to arrange your schedule accordingly.
If your sister does not pay rent she needs to start paying rent and doing household chores if she does not already do them. If she does not agree then she needs to live somewhere else.
My husband worked days and I worked evenings for years so we would be with our children and did not count on daycare or relatives.
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