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Originally Posted by SweetT87
I really appreciate all of your advice... I don't know why I stay. When things are good they're great but when it's bad it's awful. He says I make him act the way he does. Whenever something is bothering me i can never get it off my chest w/of fear of him getting angry about it. He calls me stupid, he says things and acts like he never said it. He plays the victim. Whenever he hit me it's I made him do it.
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This is all abusers' excuse! This is a flashing neon red flag, OP! Make an escape plan. See if you can get help from friends or relatives. Get out before it gets worse.
It WILL get worse over time, don't kid yourself. And don't fall for promises that he'll work on his anger issues, or pleading, or even crying (some abusers turn on the waterworks to prevent a breakup, yes, even the tough guys!). Or if he suddenly comes up with rent money as a ploy. He won't change, he'll just disguise himself temporarily, so that you think things are getting better. It's a trap, OP. Your physical integrity and emotional well-being are at stake.