Do you lose physical attraction to spouse as you get older? (marriage, woman)
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Neither of us is who or what we were 20 years ago when we married at ages 48 and 50. But the good news is, we still love, cherish and value one another. That's what matters most and transcends physical issues unless, of course, you're horribly shallow..
Op don't forget, WE guys aren't in our primes after 10, 15, 20 years either. I've aged just as much as my wife has (even got the FIRST couple of gray hairs in my goatee, recently). I haven't lost anything, she's still a hot babe! And guess what, when our hair is all gray and we're both wearing dentures, she's still going to be a hot babe
Ehhh...I'm not married now but I'm willing to admit my ex husband didn't look at good as he did when we met. How could he? 33 years and health issues happen. That didn't mean I didn't feel the same way. In some ways I felt more because of all the history we had. I'm sure he felt the same way since nobody is immune to aging. But we were not BLIND. We saw youthful beauty everywhere and knew we didn't have it anymore.
To address another thing, my ex was turned off by childbirth big time. He got over it by the time the Dr's ok'd sex again but he didn't watch the second time around. I didn't blame him, I didn't even want a mirror in the labor room!
Married 35 years meant my hubby when I was he was 23 and I still find my hubby attractive and he say I'm still hot! I've had four babies in my early 20's, so we've seen each other throughout all the different stages of life and now older age..I'm 54 now and yes we both still crazy in love..
I feel a different way about her, but not in a "bad" way.
The attractions remains never the less
She is a different person than she was over a decade ago so I would never hold her to those standards still.
Perspective is key. Lose it or ignore it and you might as well never have bothered starting any long lasting relationship at all. You have to remember just as your partner has changed, so have you. Holding your partner to a different standard than yourself isn't going to further anything than the rift you are creating by doing so.
People tend to change slowly, not overnight. If your partner (goes for men and women, regardless of sexual orientation) is slowly changing into someone you don't find attractive, there are ways to gently encourage a move back toward something you find more attractive.
You aren't going to wake up one day and find that you partner has morphed into some radically different person unless there's a tragic accident involved.
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