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I'm noticing a problem when I get matched with a woman on apps like Tinder and other apps. When I am in the getting to know you stage, I'm usually the one who is actually asking the questions and having to keep the conversation going. This gets tiresome after a while and I wonder if they are interested in me since they don't really ask questions of me. Inevitably I get bored and stop asking questions and move on.
Am I doing something wrong to get bored or if these women were interested the convo would actually go two ways?
I'm noticing a problem when I get matched with a woman on apps like Tinder and other apps. When I am in the getting to know you stage, I'm usually the one who is actually asking the questions and having to keep the conversation going. This gets tiresome after a while and I wonder if they are interested in me since they don't really ask questions of me. Inevitably I get bored and stop asking questions and move on.
Am I doing something wrong to get bored or if these women were interested the convo would actually go two ways?
Lots of people can't keep conversations going. When this happens, you can either move on or suggest meeting in person.
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Is this a pen pal thing? I'd be bored out of my mind texting someone I don't know and haven't met.
The apps are there to initiate a dialogue, just to initiate it. A few messages, then make plans to meet or not. This isn't the way to get to know someone (texting).
When you meet if there is mutual chemistry the discussions become two way and much more interesting.
But messaging messaging messaging, I'm tuning out fast as well.
Last edited by timberline742; 10-12-2016 at 08:22 AM..
I'm noticing a problem when I get matched with a woman on apps like Tinder and other apps. When I am in the getting to know you stage, I'm usually the one who is actually asking the questions and having to keep the conversation going. This gets tiresome after a while and I wonder if they are interested in me since they don't really ask questions of me. Inevitably I get bored and stop asking questions and move on.
Am I doing something wrong to get bored or if these women were interested the convo would actually go two ways?
Your intuition is correct here. When there is mutual interest, you won't be the only one asking questions, they will want to know about you as well.
I'm noticing a problem when I get matched with a woman on apps like Tinder and other apps. When I am in the getting to know you stage, I'm usually the one who is actually asking the questions and having to keep the conversation going. This gets tiresome after a while and I wonder if they are interested in me since they don't really ask questions of me. Inevitably I get bored and stop asking questions and move on.
Am I doing something wrong to get bored or if these women were interested the convo would actually go two ways?
Is this in person or online/text?
If it's online, but you were enjoying the initial contact, then meet them.
If it's in person, move on.
You cannot carry all the conversations. That would drive me crazy.
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You have to get them off the app ASAP. If they seem to be dragging their feet, compared to other women you've dated in the past, there's nothing wrong with pulling the plug. I usually try to take things off the site within 24-48 hours. Most of the time, and this is just my experience, you stay on the site any longer than that and you're just casually sending pleasantries to each other.
I don't always buy into the whole I'm not comfortable giving out my number and want to keep things on the site for a while. Most of the time, they just consider you a nice guy, but you're not "the guy" for them. It's truly no hard feelings, but when you're not making any catastrophic mistakes talking to them, they don't really have a reason to not communicate with you. You're just filling a gap, until the person they want to communicate with crosses their path.
I will ask a bunch of questions initially and try to put some work in keeping conversations interesting. If after some time, the other party is not reciprocating I will give up and move on.
If the person is not asking you questions, then they are either not interested, or not good at asking questions. If you don't have anything you want to know about me, then you're probably not a good match.
I think whether it's texting or phone (or in person), of one person has to literally carry the conversation then they're just not really "clicking" with one another and not meant to be together (unless they don't mind the situation). I feel like usually, when people click, they both like to talk. People are all different and some are more quiet than others but really, one person shouldn't be carrying the whole conversation, every time. I'd move on.
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