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We understand a woman with kids comes with baggage (lack of time, inability to put us first, a child's father, etc.), that non-parents simply don't.
Well, one time I became acquainted with a nice woman who had a small son, but she didn't tell me about him, until after I'd shown up, to spend an evening together. Then a day later, when I headed for her apartment to see her again, I heard a news bulletin on my car radio. Her ex-husband, who was a policeman, had heard she was seeing someone else and had come armed and ready. He held her son hostage for several hours, after forcing her to leave. If I'd gone over there earlier, who knows what would have happened. She immediately packed up and left the state, so that was the end of that. Just an example of a type of problem that could occur, if the father of a woman's child is not happy with you seeing her.
Well, one time I became acquainted with a nice woman who had a small son, but she didn't tell me about him, until after I'd shown up, to spend an evening together. Then a day later, when I headed for her apartment to see her again, I heard a news bulletin on my car radio. Her ex-husband, who was a policeman, had heard she was seeing someone else and had come armed and ready. He held her son hostage for several hours, after forcing her to leave. If I'd gone over there earlier, who knows what would have happened. She immediately packed up and left the state, so that was the end of that. Just an example of a type of problem that could occur, if the father of a woman's child is not happy with you seeing her.
That sounds terrifying. Crazy baby fathers: Another red flag and another reason I avoid dating a single mom. I can't risk getting my a** kicked because some psycho ex has a problem with me.
That sounds terrifying. Crazy baby fathers: Another red flag and another reason I avoid dating a single mom. I can't risk getting my a** kicked because some psycho ex has a problem with me.
Tbf that could happen with any ex, child or not, but with a child involved that does bind the father to the mother for life and the guy currently dating her will have to deal with him. He might be a great guy, he might be a deadbeat. If he was an a-hole i'd question her judgement as to why she had a kid with him, this applies if it's an absent father.
That sounds terrifying. Crazy baby fathers: Another red flag and another reason I avoid dating a single mom. I can't risk getting my a** kicked because some psycho ex has a problem with me.
Having or not having kids really has no bearing on whether or not there's a psycho ex in the picture.
Well, one time I became acquainted with a nice woman who had a small son, but she didn't tell me about him, until after I'd shown up, to spend an evening together. Then a day later, when I headed for her apartment to see her again, I heard a news bulletin on my car radio. Her ex-husband, who was a policeman, had heard she was seeing someone else and had come armed and ready. He held her son hostage for several hours, after forcing her to leave. If I'd gone over there earlier, who knows what would have happened. She immediately packed up and left the state, so that was the end of that. Just an example of a type of problem that could occur, if the father of a woman's child is not happy with you seeing her.
Well, the good news is that he was likely no longer a policeman and probably spent time behind bars.
Last edited by Curmudgeon; 10-16-2016 at 09:07 AM..
It depends how you hooked up to begin with. Most of the time it is something he will know beforehand. If not, its something I would work into the conversation at some point, if the woman does not volunteer it. If a woman has children (like my wife did) its a big part of her life and I can't imagine it not coming up during the initial (get to know you) period. It depends on the ages of the kids, do they live at home etc.
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