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You can only conclude that you didn't know him very well, and he turned out to be someone with not a lot of integrity. He also may have been flattering himself, reading more into the friendly chats with you than was there. However, the fact that you began to call him several times a week after you'd been transferred out of his department would have fed into any fantasy he may have had.
That's the one odd thing on your part, if you say it was just a workplace friendship. It's unusual to call someone in another department regularly just to chat and visit by phone. Stopping by a former workplace friend's desk when you happen to have business in that department (as he did) is within the bounds of normal. Calling someone several times/week to chat isn't. And his texting you after work hours is also odd.
So there seems to be more to the story. In any case, in view of his subsequent behavior, it sounds like you haven't lost a "friend". He was never your friend. I suspect he may have developed these workplace "friendships" with women purely for his own ego gratification, for validation of his attractiveness, or whatever. I had a co-worker once who did that. Though the persona he showed everyone was of a nice, friendly guy, underneath it all he was very manipulative and self-serving.
You never know about people. In this case, it sounds like he finally showed you his true colors, for whatever reason.
It sounds to me like he got into hot water with his wife and he therefore had to backpedal and turn this around to point at you, say you were pursuing him and so on. He seems to have gone over the top with this.
This.
His wife was upset, and his response is to pin motives on you. I would write the guy off and act like I never knew him.
What type of a man would just talk with a woman and then turn around and tell others that hey she likes me, she wants an affair with me. is this a ego boost? is he trying to be a stud among friends? what kind of a mentality makes men do this?
The kind of man who has a woman that keeps calling and bugging him after they don't work together anymore.
The kind of man who has a woman that keeps calling and bugging him after they don't work together anymore.
Right. I also don't understand why he was texting her after work hours. Or at all. He got in trouble with his wife? Why was he texting a co-worker to begin with? Who risks getting in trouble with a spouse over what were ostensibly friendly workplace exchanges? It doesn't make sense.
I think there was a lot more to this situation than meets the eye.
Don't get it twisted, this person is not your friend.
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.....wonder if the pubes are orange too? 
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