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Not sure how old you are, but I'm a millenial myself...I'll be 27 in two months...and thats just something millenial women do.
A few months ago I was dating a girl who I really started to like...but I needed to know I could trust her. We went to dinner at Chili's (her suggestion) and towards the end of our drinks I put $500 on the table. She asked me what it was for, I told her my feelings and that I wanted to be official. I then told her, you're going to let me go through your phone, texts, facebook, instagram, snpachat, etc and if you're not talking to any other guys, you can have the money and we'll be official.
She got nervous, hesitated for a moment and then backed out. That saved me a lot of future time wasted and heartache....and $500
Point is people can't be trusted. Whether your a guy or girl, whoever you're dating will ALWAYS be talking to somebody else. We live in an age where people are constantly looking for a bigger better deal than whoever we are with. When they find that, they'll just walk out of your life so easily and effortlessly as if you never existed
Sad but true and that's why I am single, people simply can't be trusted
Man, DavieJ89, you are efficient. That's a whole lot of effed up for just 27.
Regarding the OP, you seem to want to convince us that women are pretty bad. Not with the barb wired bat the poster above is taking to the topic, but still, you have your evidence and you seem to want to believe that most women are blatant and remorseless cheaters, and of course liars then when they get busted. I;m not sure if you're motivated from being hurt recently, which would be a bit understandable, or you're DavieJ89 lite.
In case you're just hurting, the real truth here is that most people are really pretty OK. None are perfect and a few are pretty rotten, but most mean well.
A few months ago I was dating a girl who I really started to like...but I needed to know I could trust her. We went to dinner at Chili's (her suggestion) and towards the end of our drinks I put $500 on the table. She asked me what it was for, I told her my feelings and that I wanted to be official. I then told her, you're going to let me go through your phone, texts, facebook, instagram, snpachat, etc and if you're not talking to any other guys, you can have the money and we'll be official.
This has no logic. To begin, if you are not yet "official" as you say then why should she not be talking to other guys? Maybe she thinks you are still talking to other ladies. You are the first one to mention "official," and if she says "yes I will date only you" then you can worry about cheating and talking to other guys. You cannot complain about other guys before "official." You also should give her a chance to tell other guys "I am sorry but we cannot go out anymore. I picked someone for a boyfriend." I had to do that a couple of times.
Second, if she is not talking to other guys, that is today. What about tomorrow? What is to stop her from showing you her phone and things, taking your money, and then breaking off with you tomorrow? Then you are out a lady who was dating only you and might have liked you too until you did this craziness AND you are missing $500. Here, I will show you my phone and tell you you are the only one and go shopping tonight and say goodbye tomorrow.
I still dont see how someone could act like that though. Like thats being a horrible person
Some people are horrible. Part of the point of being in relationships is to gain experience so that you learn how to spot people who are horrible people.
Obviously, by that point in time you did not know how to do that. With more experience, most people can begin to be better judges of character.
Not sure how old you are, but I'm a millenial myself...I'll be 27 in two months...and thats just something millenial women do.
A few months ago I was dating a girl who I really started to like...but I needed to know I could trust her. We went to dinner at Chili's (her suggestion) and towards the end of our drinks I put $500 on the table. She asked me what it was for, I told her my feelings and that I wanted to be official. I then told her, you're going to let me go through your phone, texts, facebook, instagram, snpachat, etc and if you're not talking to any other guys, you can have the money and we'll be official.
She got nervous, hesitated for a moment and then backed out. That saved me a lot of future time wasted and heartache....and $500
Point is people can't be trusted. Whether your a guy or girl, whoever you're dating will ALWAYS be talking to somebody else. We live in an age where people are constantly looking for a bigger better deal than whoever we are with. When they find that, they'll just walk out of your life so easily and effortlessly as if you never existed
Sad but true and that's why I am single, people simply can't be trusted
She probably go nervous because, for most women, what you did would have been a huge red flag that the guy is insecure, jealous, and controlling.
i literally have caught girls cheating red handed and they deny it and then turn it on me saying "you dont trust me!"
i had a ex go on a date with another guy (We were in a relationship at the time of course) and she said "he was just a friend taking me out for dinner to be nice" i asked where she met him and she said "tinder"
just lol
I guess experience isn't teaching you how to be a better judge of character.
Yes well my heart has been smashed a few times from when you remember me. I still am and honest and decent person. But if I'm going to be with somebody I need to know I can trust them, and since my last relationship ended in April 2014, the female species has not given me a reason why I should.
I don't care what that girl tells people because I will never see her again, I stand by my statements.
And of course you see nothing wrong with what YOU did in your scenario.
I still dont see how someone could act like that though. Like thats being a horrible person
Don't even try to figure it out...it is what it is...it's not uncommon..realize there's lots of people like her out there...maybe more than not.
But also remember there are a lot of good, kind, compassionate people out there, and don't let the rotten apple spoil the whole barrel for you.
And of course you see nothing wrong with what YOU did in your scenario.
No I don't, as I said I was making sure all grounds are covered. I'm extremely guarded
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