Dating An Older Man (how to, single, kids, couple)
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You bet. Don't call the cops until Saturday if you've not heard anything lol. I'm sure worst case scenario he will hate me and find me too shy.
He won't hate you. Just ask him a few questions about himself and let him talk. People like to talk about themselves. Don't fiddle around with your hands and don't avoid eye contact but don't stare him down either
He won't hate you. Just ask him a few questions about himself and let him talk. People like to talk about themselves. Don't fiddle around with your hands and don't avoid eye contact but don't stare him down either
Good luck and report back, please!
I'm REALLY bad at eye contact and I tend to play with my hair when I'm anxious. I'll just staple my hands to the table and try harder with the eye contact thing.
Absolutely GO for it! You might not work out to be a couple, but if you do enjoy and good luck!
I just read the above about your trouble with eye contact. I find it VERY important with anyone. If a person doesn't look me in the eye, they are either not to be trusted or have no self confidence. TRY hard to look at him when either of you are talking. It's SO important IMO.
I'm REALLY bad at eye contact and I tend to play with my hair when I'm anxious. I'll just staple my hands to the table and try harder with the eye contact thing.
Thanks again. All of you.
Listen, he already saw your picture(s) so you KNOW he is attracted to you. The first round is passed if you wanna say it like that. You have nothing to lose so just be yourself and relax.
I worked with a guy in his late 40's early 50's and his wife is 12 yrs older and has been retired for a few years, she had some sweet retirement deal or something from her last employer, but yeah, it would suck to be stuck in the corporate grind while your spouse was busy doing fun things, anything would be fun other than the work grind.
It's more than that. It's also the whole financial planning thing. At age 58 with only 7 or 8 work years left, financial decisions about spending versus saving & investing are far different from when you're 38 with 25+ work years ahead of you.
I don't think anyone will tell you they feel at 53 just like they did at 32, even if they are really healthy. That's just not realistic. They may have some areas where they have improved physical fitness, but they will have some areas where their recovery time might not be as great and where certain tasks are more difficult due to their age.
I agree with the last part, but that doesn't mean they (and others) still can't see themselves as much younger. That is my personal experience.
I talk to a few people on dating sites, but it never really gets anywhere. I'm 32 and most of the people that message me are younger. I've been talking to a 53 year old guy who lives locally for the last 2 weeks or so. We finally spoke on the phone last night and clicked really well. He has a grown daughter but is long divorced. He treats me with respect and has even been there for me during the rather rough time that I'm going through. We are going to meet up sometime this weekend. It'll be the first time I've met anyone from a dating site in a long time.
As for the age difference, it's not a big deal to me. I'm not sure why older men are often shunned when he has treated me with more respect than guys my age or younger usually do. He has a good job and is emotionally stable (unlike me) and is good looking for his age.
I think it could be very healthy, even if we are just friends for now. If I bring anyone into my life they need to be a stabilizing influence. An older man could certainly fill that role. Age is just a number anyway, agree?
Thank God for women like you. Thats all I can say!
20 years is not a big deal if he's active, healthy, and loves you/makes you happy.
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Don't fiddle around with your hands and don't avoid eye contact but don't stare him down either 
