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Most likely because they've had the wherewithal not to ask certain types of questions on the first few dates.
Apparently a lot of people are having sex on the first few dates so why is it such a big deal to ask a question about sexual preferences or history on the first few dates?
I'm just curious to what exactly is feminine about this guy. The OP says in post #1 that she's usually into athletic guys, so is it just that he's not a jock, or is there more to it?
My sister is married to a guy who some of the family talk about behind his back. Why? Because he's well-dressed, soft-spoken, and doesn't really like spectator sports. In their minds, that's enough to question his sexuality.
Yes, that's different. I wouldn't say anything to him about his mannerisms being feminine. If he asked why I was asking, I would just say because you never can tell these days.
Right...but this being the SOLE reason for the OP's wondering about the issue, and him being bound to say "Why do you ask?", well...that's how it would have to go down. "You never can tell these days" would surely go over like a fart in church. It still sounds pretty darned bad...like an excuse or cover for suspecting out of nowhere that the guy likes guys.
And...no. Just no. Or...I mean she can, if she wants to. But YES it is rude in this context. PERIOD.
Yes, that's different. I wouldn't say anything to him about his mannerisms being feminine. If he asked why I was asking, I would just say because you never can tell these days.
So you would ask if he was gay, based on his feminine mannerisms (making a major assumption) but you would NOT ask directly about his mannerisms?
So you would ask if he was gay, based on his feminine mannerisms (making a major assumption) but you would NOT ask directly about his mannerisms?
No, I wouldn't specifically ask about his mannerisms. There have been a few times where I've gotten a feminine vibe from a guy, but I don't just ask if they're interested in men based on that. I ask because it's just something that I like to know in general. Like I said, you never can tell.
On OKC, there are two questions relating to this.
On asks if you have ever had a sex with someone of the same sex.
The other asks if you would date someone that has.
There's a good reason for the question and it most certainly can be put in the same manner as asking about STD status if getting intimate with this person is contemplated
What's so scandalous about asking someone if they date men or if they're into men? Either you are or you aren't.
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On OKC, there are two questions relating to this.
On asks if you have ever had a sex with someone of the same sex.
The other asks if you would date someone that has.
There's a good reason for the question and it most certainly can be put in the same manner as asking about STD status if getting intimate with this person is contemplated
Yup, that's a question that I always answered publicly on OKC because I wanted to see their answers.
What's so scandalous about asking someone if they date men or if they're into men? Either you are or you aren't.
Given the countless other things you could talk about on a date, why would this be one of them that you bring up? They are on a date with you at the moment which seems to imply they are indeed into women. At this juncture in the "relationship", what purpose would you have to pry into their history like that? That's so...awkward.
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