Who do you think is lying in this friend/relationship situation? (marriage, loving)
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She said she got the email cause she found herself in my email and found it. She said it was a message. I asked her how is it that she could have gotten a message about it, since my email doesn't email me messages back that I just sent. She says she doesn't know who sent her the message or how she got it, because she was so mad that she deleted it.
But if she was in my email, then that's not true, cause the record is not deleted.
But my sister says that maybe she can apologize publicly to everyone on facebook, and that maybe we can forgive each other and try to see a counselor, before just deciding to throw it away, without seeking a professional's advice, and then possibly regretting it later.
Your mom and sister are clueless. If you were to go through with their suggestion, you'd have yet another year (that would make at least 3, total, if not more) of drama, incidents you have to ask our opinion about, doubts, confusion, and demands for money. That is no way to live, OP. Even if, let's say, 75% of the time is, as you said earlier, good times. That other 25% (approximately) isn't worth putting up with the rest of your life.
And that aggravating percentage would grow if you were to get married. Her behavior isn't normal. Don't tell us "all couples fight or have their disagreements". Mature people don't behave like your gf. She'll find some other guy to pay her bills, bankroll her father, pay for the babies she wants to have, and put up with her caprices and drama.
So you think that no amount of counseling could change her, or me, into being a better couple, and seeing what to do right then? Cause that is what counseling is, right? Even though she keeps saying she loves me and is crying all the time? If she is just scamming, me than why put on this huge show of loving me, and wanting to get me back by contacting my sister and Mom and crying?
Why not just find a guy that is more agreeable with her ways?
Last edited by ironpony; 11-11-2016 at 10:33 AM..
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So you think that no amount of counseling could change her, or me, into being a better couple, and seeing what to do right then?
SHE has to WANT to change, and there is zero evidence that she wants to stop using you as an ATM.
From all you have told us, she is not interested in becoming "a better couple"... she is in it for the money.
And you have to want to change. However, it is obvious that you don't mind being used, as you allow it to happen over and over. So I have NO idea how counseling would help you two.
Do you really want a lifetime of drama & being used?
You deserve to be appreciated and loved.
Well it's just that this time she is crying a lot over the weeks since we broke up and she says she is sorry for posting what she posted on facebook. She took it down and says she will apologize to everyone. She says she really will change this time and really means it.
She is even willing to sign a prenup she said in order to get me back. This is a huge surprise since her being offended by me asking her to, way back, seemed to be the possible route cause of where she started having problems with me. Unless the route cause was something else, but her offering to, I thought was a huge surprise. The thing is, is that if I give her another shot, I am worried it all may be a reprieve until we are married or something, where the problems will start again. So I am worried about that, but sometimes I feel I may be losing out, if I don't take a leap of faith. Not that I will get married anytime soon. But wonder if it's worth another shot dating wise.
No. She did not manipulate everyone into lying that the conversation took place.
Yes; she is manipulative enough to have manipulated the group into the conversation to begin with & take it way farther than the group would have on their own.
The only reason why I got back into contact with her, is cause she contacted my Mom and my sister to talk about things.
My mom says that my gf seems to love me from the bottom of her heart like she says. I told her I don't know if I can get back with her, after she humiliates me to everyone on facebook, about me being abusive to her.
I mean I had to yell at her and put my foot down a few times, if that can count as abuse, cause I wouldn't let her to talk.
But my mom says that every woman gets mad and does something they regret when angry, and if I am looking for one who doesn't, it's not going to happen.
The only reason why I got back into contact with her, is cause she contacted my Mom and my sister to talk about things.
My mom says that my gf seems to love me from the bottom of her heart like she says. I told her I don't know if I can get back with her, after she humiliates me to everyone on facebook, about me being abusive to her.
I mean I had to yell at her and put my foot down a few times, if that can count as abuse, cause I wouldn't let her to talk.
But my mom says that every woman gets mad and does something they regret when angry, and if I am looking for one who doesn't, it's not going to happen.
Who are you marrying, your ex-gf or your mom?
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