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Yes even her family gives her what she wants but she doesn't pay rent to top it off
Its not easy for her to understand
Personally I just feel pressured in my heart and I have a hard time saying no to her shes a very sweet girlfriend and don't want to disappoint her if I have the money I would sure do it in a heart beat.
The other thing she told me is to get A higher paying job but I am not leaving an IT School District job to work for the private sector which while it pays higher is very unstable.
Plus the benefits are good and the hours let me spend time with her on weekends .
Only leave that job if you want to, and not because your g/f is practically forcing you or prying you to do so.
Just seems to me that you and her are not compatible. Sorry dude..
Seems to me that she'd be better off finding a rich wealthy guy that wants to marry right now. Seems like she just wants you to do things without any regard for your opinion/feelings, or if you can even afford to do so.
Only leave that job if you want to, and not because your g/f is practically forcing you or prying you to do so.
Just seems to me that you and her are not compatible. Sorry dude..
Seems to me that she'd be better off finding a rich wealthy guy that wants to marry right now. Seems like she just wants you to do things without any regard for your opinion/feelings, or if you can even afford to do so.
We will talk about it tommorow.
If she doesnt understand she can decide weather to continue or not.
I definately would expect her to put her part in.
All that just by myself is impossible
She doesn't know the value of a dollar, and has been spoiled. Also, I am disappointed to hear that she wants you to earn more, rather than wanting to earn more for herself? She sounds like a child, not like an adult. She is too immature to marry. She needs to grow up first.
I think you need to have a heart to heart talk with her. Be transparent and open about your earnings and what is affordable for you. I would tell her that you are saving for a ring, but she will need to save for the wedding that she wants. You can both save together for your future home.
If she is not paying rent, she should be able to save for a wedding easily.
For your own sake you have to stand firm. Don't give in to her pressure or allow her to make you feel inadequate as a man because you are realistic and responsible with your money. If she gets her way, you'll end up in deep debt.
For your own sake you have to stand firm. Don't give in to her pressure or allow her to make you feel inadequate as a man because you are realistic and responsible with your money. If she gets her way, you'll end up in deep debt.
Yes
I told her its unrealistic
There is no rush.
She just feels like the clocking is ticking.
Of what? Theres no rush
Overall I denied the request unless she wants to pay for the wedding and save up sure.
It will depend on her final answer tommorow
The only thing I could save up for now is the engagement ring but everything will be put on hold
How are you going to buy a house in the la area with just your salary? You say you bring home 3k a month? She is going to have to contribute to qualify for a home.
Also, only dating for 6 months? She is trying to reel you in fast. I'd be cautious of her intentions.
I know this girl that wanted to get married so bad. She found a sucker. Had a big wedding, moved out to her dream location, got pregnant with twins, and left him in a year. She used the excuse because he thought things were moving too fast that he didn't love her and the kids and wasn't a REAL man so she left him. Put it all over her Facebook for everybody to see too.
Now he has to pay child support for the twins and got hosed financially for the theatrics of the wedding and move.
How are you going to buy a house in the la area with just your salary? You say you bring home 3k a month? She is going to have to contribute to qualify for a home.
Also, only dating for 6 months? She is trying to reel you in fast. I'd be cautious of her intentions.
I know this girl that wanted to get married so bad. She found a sucker. Had a big wedding, moved out to her dream location, got pregnant with twins, and left him in a year. She used the excuse because he thought things were moving too fast that he didn't love her and the kids and wasn't a REAL man so she left him. Put it all over her Facebook for everybody to see too.
Now he has to pay child support for the twins and got hosed financially for the theatrics of the wedding and move.
lmao so she initiated the divorce for essentially no reason...and the guy is the one that gets screwed?
Lmao then some women wonder why guys dont want to get married.
as for the op...break up with her man. she is clearly trying to hose you into a marriage and a **** load of other expenses.
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