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if the guy had a ONS with one girl in the group but the girl did not want to pursue a relationship then this is all copacetic. Just a hookup. If he just hangs around and is nice to everyone and one night goes home with one of Girl1's friends, then this is probably okay too. However if he actually tries to ask another girl out in the interests of pursuing a relationship with her then he is just creepy and weird.
This seems to be an area (one of many) of the female psyche I don't understand ?
Men and women are really not that different in terms of sexual "territory"..
If you slept with some girl, then she started workin your boy & now he's tryin to hit it too - would you honestly not think she's some type of garden tool?!
I'm certainly not judging, I've been on all sides of this equation.. & I own it. lol
* Ultimately, people will always do what they want, regardless. But one must always be prepared for the backlash...
Right. But, again, if he never slept with the first girl (as she friendzoned him), I would think that if he approaches her friend, no harm, no foul - he's not with the first girl, so he's open territory.
But to get all butthurt and upset? Maybe I'm strange that way, but if I friendzone a woman, say I'm not interested in a relationship with her, and she pursues one of my buddies, my response would be two words: SO WHAT.
Apparently, my buddy's talking to her again. I told him that I'd have told her to go pound sand, and cut her out from his life. Glutton for punishment!
The only part of the story in which I would question the guy who was put in the friend zone is how he approached the girl that put him there to ask about one of her girlfriends.
Why was that necessary? Unless he doesn't know how to contact the girl, why would he tell her he was going after one of her girlfriends unless it was a way to tweak her a bit?
Just ask the girl out, already. Forget running it past the the "friend".
The only part of the story in which I would question the guy who was put in the friend zone is how he approached the girl that put him there to ask about one of her girlfriends.
Why was that necessary? Unless he doesn't know how to contact the girl, why would he tell her he was going after one of her girlfriends unless it was a way to tweak her a bit?
Just ask the girl out, already. Forget running it past the the "friend".
That part just seems a little bush-league.
I agree. Use the direct approach. I think backdooring is kinda immature.
The only part of the story in which I would question the guy who was put in the friend zone is how he approached the girl that put him there to ask about one of her girlfriends.
Why was that necessary? Unless he doesn't know how to contact the girl, why would he tell her he was going after one of her girlfriends unless it was a way to tweak her a bit?
Just ask the girl out, already. Forget running it past the the "friend".
That part just seems a little bush-league.
Totally agree. He should've just gone for it without involving her.
If there was mutual interest/chemistry with the friend, then hey, no harm no foul. Let the girls duke it out for themselves.
Now there's just a bunch of unecessary drama here...lol
Right. But, again, if he never slept with the first girl (as she friendzoned him), I would think that if he approaches her friend, no harm, no foul - he's not with the first girl, so he's open territory.
But to get all butthurt and upset? Maybe I'm strange that way, but if I friendzone a woman, say I'm not interested in a relationship with her, and she pursues one of my buddies, my response would be two words: SO WHAT.
Apparently, my buddy's talking to her again. I told him that I'd have told her to go pound sand, and cut her out from his life. Glutton for punishment!
Oh, ok, lol.. So he wasn't exactly interested in her friend, he just said that to get a rise out of her and make her jealous to keep her interested in him. . . I get it now, hahahah.
I agree!
When I was younger, we never passed boyfriends around to each other.
It is weird!
He wasn't a boyfriend of hers, though. They went on a date and she made it clear that she wasn't interested.
If I went on one date with a girl and didn't like her, I would have no issue with her wanting to connect with a friend of mine -- UNLESS I wanted to keep the girl around as an option and play her.
Even if it's weird, why the ridiculous reaction from the girl? Are we really defending that? That was more weird/strange than anything the guy did. Because he talked to her first she's the only person in her circle he can talk to?
If she reacted like that, she would have been pissed even if he went directly to the girl instead of asking the friend. She used the word "betray" with someone she barely knows.. lol. #CrazyPerson
And you are way too emotionally involved in the situation. I can tell by all the exclamations and capital letters. You need to simmer down.
Who's emotionally riled up? Just saying, ok??
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