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The woman I spoke of in another thread, just reached out to me and wrote this:
Asalamu aleikum. I am engaged. Please don't reach out again. May God be with you.
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Man guys and girl, I'm really hurting, wish I had someone I could cry to and hug. Feeling worthless right now.
I am admittedly not very experienced with relationships myself, only been in a few in life so far tbh, but I have heard it said that one of the best ways of getting over a lost love is to try to find a potential new love? (Not meant as a rebound relationship or FWB situation, but rather as a real, genuine full and loving, caring relationship?)
He is gonna need some time before moving to that. To the OP: My advice would be to find some kind of activity.
But take baby steps, you do need time to grieve. But you are definitely going to have to accept that it is over and that there is nothing there. I'd say avoid all contact with her, do everything you can to forget about her... grieve, move on, and I can't say you'll find someone because I don't know the future. But I do believe it is possible to be happy with life even outside of a relationship.
My Friend we have all been there. The key is to become independent. You see when two independent people come together it is called an interdependent relationship. Each one can comfortably and confidently be by themselves. I swear to you, I am not referring to bitterness, selfishness, or coldness. This is just fact, and the more you rely on yourself to be happy, the more of this life you will truthfully enjoy. We only get one shot my friend...LIVE!
He is gonna need some time before moving to that. To the OP: My advice would be to find some kind of activity.
But take baby steps, you do need time to grieve. But you are definitely going to have to accept that it is over and that there is nothing there. I'd say avoid all contact with her, do everything you can to forget about her... grieve, move on, and I can't say you'll find someone because I don't know the future. But I do believe it is possible to be happy with life even outside of a relationship.
How do you avoid getting broken like this? The feelings I experienced were so terrible. I had nightmares last night and I was crying in my sleep....
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Originally Posted by funymann
Ouch!
Consider it a blessing.
I know she never deserved me but it hurts when you were never going to leave the person or do something this hurtful.
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Originally Posted by Frihed89
A pretty normal blessing. We've all felt the way you do. The blessing part will sink in later.
I'm sorry man. I know it doesn't help now, but I was there too in my 20s. I lost a girl that I loved very much and thought that she was the one and we'd be together forever. I met my real true love a year later and we've been together for almost 30 years now.
It'll work out, it always does. Hang in there and keep posting.
What always helps me after a break up is writing a list of all the negative ... and it is always surprising how much there is once you start writing it down.
Start with that:
- she slept at another mans house "for her child" who wasn't even the child's dad!!! TOTAL DEALBREAKER!
Release that which can no longer be held. Your suffering serves only to strengthen you..
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(Not meant as a rebound relationship or FWB situation, but rather as a real, genuine full and loving, caring relationship?)
*offers you some Kleenex*
