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Old 11-16-2016, 11:31 AM
 
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Not as much as a kid. You don't need an elaborate ceremony, but something tells me you really don't want to make that commitment.
my girlfriend is not the type who would make do with a cheap wedding , she has expensive tastes , your talking a twenty grand wedding
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Old 11-16-2016, 11:49 AM
 
Location: Raleigh, North Carolina
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You have your bargaining "tool" right in front of you!

We can either have an expensive wedding and I get a vasectomy, or we have an inexpensive wedding and I don't.

(I'm just kidding, btw)
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Old 11-16-2016, 06:18 PM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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how much do you think a wedding costs ?
Think? I know, having been in many wedding parties, along with being a bride myself.

Weddings can cost little or much.
The important thing is to have one that fits your price range.
If you can only afford small, you do small.

As I said before, if you can afford kid, you can afford to get married....
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Old 11-18-2016, 09:57 AM
 
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my girlfriend is not the type who would make do with a cheap wedding , she has expensive tastes , your talking a twenty grand wedding
All you're doing now is coming up with excuses. Either you want to be married or you don't. And if your girlfriend is so hung up on the big wedding, then maybe she isn't the long-term relationship you want to have. Because people who spend undue amounts of their time thinking about the wedding never seem to think about the marriage.
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Old 11-18-2016, 10:04 AM
 
Location: Middle America
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My sister and I are 12 months apart. It is not too soon to have this conversation and OP you should be having it ASAP.
Uh, OP should have had it loooong before now.
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Old 11-18-2016, 10:09 AM
 
Location: Middle America
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I work in an antenatal clinic and accidents happen a lot more frequently than people would like to believe. 3 months is more than enough time for someone to get pregnant.
LOL, not in my world. My physical recovery was significantly longer, and I was an ovulation for about seven months PP. We WANTED to have another baby ASAP, but had to wait on the biological realities.
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Old 11-18-2016, 10:10 AM
 
Location: Middle America
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Every woman in America would insist that it is her right to decide if she wants to not have more children, then her husband/mate has no right to tell her she has to bear another child. In the same way, a man decides to make decisions for himself, especially because he is the breadwinner in this case, about his own future plans as far as taking responsibility for another child. Our culture is completely sold out to feminism, as though women have all the say, and function as the head of the family. Don't be a doormat. Its your life. You're not her servant.
You have a lot of resentment.
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Old 11-18-2016, 10:36 AM
 
Location: colorado springs, CO
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My second marriage was to a 48 yr old man when I was 36. He had two grown sons from a previous marriage. I had ... many ...

Anyway; I quickly became pregnant with his child & 9 months later our son arrived. That whole first night, my husband probably said 100 times ..."OMG; he looks just like ****" (his oldest son) & every nurse came into my room would say "Wow; your son looks just like his Daddy!"

On the day I came home I asked him "Why is this such a big deal to you; why do you seem so amazed that the baby looks just like you?"

. . . He answered "Because; I'm sorry for not ever telling you this but I had a Vasectomy 13 years ago after my divorce."

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Old 11-18-2016, 12:40 PM
 
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my girlfriend is not the type who would make do with a cheap wedding , she has expensive tastes , your talking a twenty grand wedding


Did she work before the baby?
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Old 11-20-2016, 05:05 AM
 
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You have a lot of resentment.
But he has a point.
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