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I'm approaching my mid 50s and still keep a high libido; I've met women a decade older with active libidos. I don't know about the "every night" thing, but yes, frequent sex should play a factor.
My family and friends have been on me to "get out there and meet someone" since being widowed 6 years ago. (I am a young 61). While I did date some after my husband died there has been nobody since 2013. I joined a dating site over the weekend just to see what was out there. The men close to my age look so old. Nobody interested me. One guy messaged me and we chatted back and forth but after 4 messages he gave me his phone number and wanted us to meet for coffee. I was getting a little interested until this morning when I read the questions he answered and he mentioned wanting to have sex every night!
Really?! Does a 68 year old guy seriously want to have sex every night? The thought of having sex every night at my age is incomprehensible. I plan on messaging him back and being honest with him and telling him based on the answers to the dating site's questions I don't think we are a match.
Can you lose it if you don't use it? Is it normal to be repulsed at the thought of a man touching you? And no I have never been raped or sexually abused. My late husband and I had a great sex life until he got sick. Is it me or do other women at 61 have little to no desire for sex? It's not a physical thing, it's a mental thing in my case. Maybe it was just too much trauma between being widowed and then diagnosed with breast cancer 8 months later?
How many women my age are out there and still desire and want sex especially the single ones still in the dating scene?
I wonder if there are dating sites for people who don't want sex?
No, it's pretty normal not to. Do your own thing, screw what others say.
I'm 53....I've had the unfortunate luck to have a higher drive than most men I've been with...but still never every day! I do think that when you go through "lulls" that you get out of that mode and don't think about it and it feels like you don't need it. But if you came across the right guy, you'd likely get a lot of that back!
But a guy who brings up "every night" so soon is a break for you because at least you found out early into things! Let yourself feel romantic with a guy and then re-assess. In the meantime it might not hurt to pick up whatever romance novel or erotica, etc. you're into and keep things burning at least enough to convince yourself you're still able! If you reject sex out of hand to too many guys you'll find your selection becomes very limited - you need to at least be open to the possibility, otherwise there's little reason to date.
Don't be too concerned CAjerseychick - I have had medical issues which you probably don't have.
Maybe if I met someone in real life and got to know them and liked them I would feel different. Maybe this whole online dating just isn't for me. You can't get a feeling for a guy's personality unless he has a great profile and most don't. The one guy who had an amazing profile and sense of humor lives in the Northeast. I just feel numb in my heart, I don't know how else to describe it.
Men - specifically unmarried men who date: please answer this question: are you still able and willing to have sex every single night? Is that something any man I might date would expect? I figured at that age once a week would be more the norm.
Mmmm. Well I'm 52 and my lady is 54. Myself, frequent sex wouldn't be a bad thing, but my gal has some medical issues that don't make that easy. It's not like she doesn't want me, her desires are very awake. We've just had to change things up a bit from when we were younger and before her old injuries started acting up. I've also come to both view and feel intimacy differently. It's a good thing. Intercourse is not a graven requirement for being intimate. Extremely intimate even.
She's expressed some fear that I need more and might let my eye stray. But I think I've calmed the down. Nobody else could make me feel like she does, and it's not even just about physical interaction. I don't think every man out there would be happy in a relationship like ours, but I'm over the moon.
My guess is that few women over 60 would have much interest in sex. Just ask their husbands. Seriously, they are long past their sexual peak, past menopause, and just running out of energy.
Plus people in general don't expend money time effort, energy, if they have what they need. Tons of women at 60 are financially comfortable. They don't need a man to supply them with the things they need in life so, my guess is, that most women don't need or want a man, even if they have one.
My guess is that few women over 60 would have much interest in sex. Just ask their husbands. Seriously, they are long past their sexual peak, past menopause, and just running out of energy.
Plus people in general don't expend money time effort, energy, if they have what they need. Tons of women at 60 are financially comfortable. They don't need a man to supply them with the things they need in life so, my guess is, that most women don't need or want a man, even if they have one.
You just said that a woman's sexual activity is a matter of her needed a man to give her money.
Thanks everyone - I think I would like to find love again but not sure I'm up to having sex every night! Although who knows with the right man I might want to!
I seriously doubt you need to worry about that. Most guys will be fine with a couple of nights a week, maybe three. You just need to find someone you are ATTRACTED to before you can even think about that.
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