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Old 12-05-2016, 10:43 AM
 
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Woman only needs a guy if he pays for everything?
If I'm paying for everything, the guy isn't putting anything towards the relationship. There should be a balance.
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Old 12-05-2016, 11:42 AM
 
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If I'm paying for everything, the guy isn't putting anything towards the relationship. There should be a balance.
Exactly. And I'd expect a man to feel the same way.

I mean it just goes without saying. Over time, both people should be contributing something if there are expenses (and there always are unless every date is a walk through the city park, though that does sound nice, LOL).
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Old 12-05-2016, 05:55 PM
 
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it's amazing how many couples I see where the woman pays for everything... I have always paid 90% of the expenses in all my relationships and also with dating. I always wonder why I can't get some of the sweet deals other men are getting at least once I would like to be taken care of rather than constantly taking care of things with zero appreciation in return.
Really?? Is there something that distinguishes these couples? Are the women earning markedly more?
I have to admit I dont see it as a common thing. More often than not I thought there was a balance, especially if the couple have similar earnings. Looking at my male friends & acquaintances though, I do see the trend when it comes to the more desirable 50% compared to the less desirable 50%, that women for the top half are happy to be more generous to their men, whereas it tends to be the other way around for the bottom 50%. Its not absolute by any means but there is the theme, and I think its due to the nature of people to be more generous/forgiving to better looking people or a partner we find more special and with less desirable men, many use money/generosity to help make up for it.
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Old 12-05-2016, 07:02 PM
 
Location: East coast-New England
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Intriguing logic. Woman only needs a guy if he pays for everything?

Well..see this is the trade off. Lots of men have wanted women to "be women" and cook, clean, do most of the child rearing, laundry,dishes, etc. You want a woman to .....stay in that role...so to speak.

And, some women want the men to ...stay in their role...as the bread winner of the family, the one who is financially supporting a lot of things. And that behavior starts when dating. Cause where else WOULD it start? Also, some men are fine with that role of being the head honcho, bread winner, while the little lady takes care of the kids and house.

And again, those ideas of what roles men and women should play will start off when people are dating.
Plus, society has taught us that the guy always pays, or at least is the one who pays the most. You can dislike that all you want, but unless you live under a rock, you know this is true.


This has been going on for generations. It's tough to change those roles at times, isn't it?
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Old 12-06-2016, 11:33 AM
 
Location: Jupiter
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I usually will never spend a dime on a woman unless we were dating and it is serious. I am not a walking wallet.
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