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Old 11-28-2016, 02:55 PM
 
Location: Dallas Texas
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I don't see how screwing other people shows how much you love your spouse. If anybody is gonna to make you moan and scream, its only gonna be me!
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Old 11-28-2016, 03:01 PM
 
Location: Ohio
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If you were, you wouldn't have tried to get another partner.
Thast not always the case. People cheat whether happy or not.
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Old 11-28-2016, 03:05 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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Help me safe my marriage

Sorry, but your "marriage", such as it is, is probably over.......or should be.
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Old 11-28-2016, 03:16 PM
 
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Ok, so I was trying to be short in my explanation. Of things, I have had people tell me that an open relationship is being able to have sex with who ever, well that's not our relationship. We have discussed this in full details. I can play with women so long as they are willing to join the both of us also. He had said he was ok with having another man join us as well but that would never be alone. I did not have sex with not even meet another person. I am not saying that what I did was right, but we have been talking about trying to fix this problem which I caused and at least 2 a week he is now questioning what I'm doing. I have been trying to be comforting and understanding as well as honest with him about everything.
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Old 11-28-2016, 03:17 PM
 
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So you have been talking to a woman...or a man?
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Old 11-28-2016, 03:21 PM
 
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he is now questioning what I'm doing.
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as honest with him about everything.
You should have been honest in the first place.

If you were my spouse, I would be headed for an attorney's office.
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Old 11-28-2016, 03:22 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
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So does he now not want the open marriage anymore or where exact lays the problem?
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Old 11-28-2016, 03:22 PM
 
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If you want to save your marriage, close it right back up and work the crap out of it. Now is certainly not the time to be bringing others in.
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Old 11-28-2016, 03:22 PM
 
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So does he now not want the open marriage anymore or where exact lays the problem?
She (he?) started talking to someone without telling her spouse first.
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Old 11-28-2016, 03:24 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
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I have been married for 17 years to the man I truly love. We kinda have an open relationship, I recently started looking for a partner for use to have fun with together. I didn't tell my spouse right away that I was looking, but I did tell him and he told me that he was upset about the fact that I hide it from him at first. But then was ok with it, got envolved with the online talking and everything, but now we have been having trouble because he feels like he isn't enough, feels like I am hiding stuff from him ect. In the mean time there has been no chit chatting with the other person for the last few weeks but my husband is constantly worried and wondering if I'm hiding things. Help! How can I fix this?
I don't think he is the kind of person who can see you getting busy with another man if he already has such self esteem issues. If you moan too load or get a little too excited about another person in the bedroom, his insecurities will probably increase even more.
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