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Old 02-28-2008, 04:36 AM
 
Location: Camberville
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I grew up in the South and now live in the North.

Among my age group (late teens/early 20s), there is definitely a difference between the North and South in terms of education. Obviously this doesn't go for everyone, but a large majority of my high school planned which college they'd go to based on the sororities and the types of men in the fraternity partnered with it. They spend all their money on hair and nails (no saving for college).

In the North, you just don't see that. Girls might get their hair or nails done once in a while, but it's not something that's expected (at home almost every girl I knew got her nails done once a week with the big, hideous fake nails- you couldn't go to the mall without seeing them on every other pair of hands. I go to the mall now and there's not a single set of fake nails to be seen). Girls aren't going to college to find the man they're going to marry and even if they plan on joining a sorority, they don't start trying to make contacts to get in the "right" one two years in advance!

In general, you see more fake tans, fake blonde hair, fake nails, and fake smiles in the South. It's part of the culture. Everything is as sickeningly sweet as the tea. In the North, I feel like natural beauty is more important. We don't tan too often, we don't layer on the makeup, more people are dying their blonde hair dark than the other way around if they dye at all.

Also, Southern girls are EVERY BIT as bitchy and "tough" as Northern girls, just in a different way. Southern girls will hop in a lifted jeep with their boyfriend and go mudding, swearing the whole while. They also are more competitive about appearances and reputations. Girls in the North are more competitive about careers, apartments, etc because they lifestyle is so much faster. If we could get a decent apartment for under $1000 a month (like in the South), we'd be a whole lot bitchy too! :P

Again, sweeping generalizations... but it's crazy how much many of the girls I went into high school with relished the stereotypes!

 
Old 02-28-2008, 08:12 AM
 
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I got a chuckle out of the big hair comments on southern women.

Go to New Jersey or Long Island if you want to see some big hair!

I've rarely seen "big hair" on girls from NY, Jersey, or LI. Perhaps in the 1980s, when it was popular, but nowadays the vast majority of women from NJ and Long Island look like Lindsay Lohan/Paris Hilton wannabes.
 
Old 02-28-2008, 08:30 AM
 
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I've rarely seen "big hair" on girls from NY, Jersey, or LI. Perhaps in the 1980s, when it was popular, but nowadays the vast majority of women from NJ and Long Island look like Lindsay Lohan/Paris Hilton wannabes.
Likewise, I've rarely seen "big hair" on girls in the south. Perhaps in the 1980s, when it was popular, but nowadays the vast majority of women from the south look like Lindsay Lohan/Paris Hilton wannabes.
 
Old 02-28-2008, 08:41 AM
 
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"Southern women" aren't one big group. I know plenty of southern redneck girls who are as loud as any northern girl I've ever seen.

But as a southern guy, southern women generally appear much more feminine to me. I've dated northern girls, and there are some differences.
 
Old 02-28-2008, 08:48 AM
 
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Likewise, I've rarely seen "big hair" on girls in the south. Perhaps in the 1980s, when it was popular, but nowadays the vast majority of women from the south look like Lindsay Lohan/Paris Hilton wannabes.


BS! If you mean places like Florida or beach towns perhaps, but I went to college in the South, and many many of these women still have the "big hair" and tight jeans thing going, something I rarely saw on Long Island. Lindsay Lohan doesn't have big hair.
 
Old 02-28-2008, 08:54 AM
 
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BS! If you mean places like Florida or beach towns perhaps, but I went to college in the South, and many many of these women still have the "big hair" and tight jeans thing going, something I rarely saw on Long Island. Lindsay Lohan doesn't have big hair.
I grew up in the Middle of Nowhere, SC. I remember women had big hair up until about 1995, which may have been out of style at the time, but that was over a decade ago.

Unless you're talking about my 84 year old grandmother - You're right, she doesn't have the Linsday Lohan thing going on. She has big hair.
 
Old 02-28-2008, 09:16 AM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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Ok, from personal experience, I KNOW there is a difference.
I was born in MA and moved to Ohio after I got married. Compared to Ohio, my New England upbringing was more formal (white gloves and party manners, dancing lessons, and "tea and crumpet" weddings, etc). Over the years I've adapted to a lack of formality, due to both geography and the changing times. Basically, I thought I was well versed in the social graces even though I didn't need to use them much in the midwest. The people I hang with are lovely, dear people, but the unofficial motto in NE Ohio is "If you can't wear it bowling, you're overdressed."
However, when one of our sons married a NC debutant, I got a real culture shock. Her family goes way back in MS and NC and it's as though they are in a time warp. The women are as sweet as pie, and I really like them, but I am always left feeling a bit crass...as if I've said something wrong, but not sure what...not so much for my DIL but her mother and grandmother (who was raised on a plantation).
The most disquieting thing is that I will never know for sure if they truly like me, or if they do think I'm crass, because a southern woman would NEVER be less than charming to your face.
 
Old 02-28-2008, 09:25 AM
 
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Ok, from personal experience, I KNOW there is a difference.
I was born in MA and moved to Ohio after I got married. Compared to Ohio, my New England upbringing was more formal (white gloves and party manners, dancing lessons, and "tea and crumpet" weddings, etc). Over the years I've adapted to a lack of formality, due to both geography and the changing times. Basically, I thought I was well versed in the social graces even though I didn't need to use them much in the midwest. The people I hang with are lovely, dear people, but the unofficial motto in NE Ohio is "If you can't wear it bowling, you're overdressed."
However, when one of our sons married a NC debutant, I got a real culture shock. Her family goes way back in MS and NC and it's as though they are in a time warp. The women are as sweet as pie, and I really like them, but I am always left feeling a bit crass...as if I've said something wrong, but not sure what...not so much for my DIL but her mother and grandmother (who was raised on a plantation).
The most disquieting thing is that I will never know for sure if they truly like me, or if they do think I'm crass, because a southern woman would NEVER be less than charming to your face.
I agree, there is a 'fantasy world' that many middle/upper class southern women live in. I've escorted girls in lots of these debutante balls, with tuxedo tails and white gloves, doing these silly little pageant-type walks around a dance floor. My hometown has about 6 of these each year.

I think many southern women aspire to be 'southern belles,' which is a very different goal than many northern women have. Northern women tend to want respect, power and gender equality. Just my opinion.
 
Old 02-28-2008, 10:33 AM
 
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I know plenty of southern redneck girls who are as loud as any northern girl I've ever seen.
I think that the thread was comparing "northern women you might want to date" versus "southern women you might want to date."

I think that the southern version of Tonya Harding trailer trash and the northern "yous guys" gum-smacking bimbo were assumed to be excluded.
 
Old 02-28-2008, 10:36 AM
 
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I think many southern women aspire to be 'southern belles,' which is a very different goal than many northern women have. Northern women tend to want respect, power and gender equality. Just my opinion.
Dude, you are "right on the money."

Just like there are microclimates within small geographic areas, why wouldn't there be differences as one moves to another location? That's why we have sociologists, social psychologists and anthropologists that study this kind of crap.

I agree with you!
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