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I agree, there is a 'fantasy world' that many middle/upper class southern women live in. I've escorted girls in lots of these debutante balls, with tuxedo tails and white gloves, doing these silly little pageant-type walks around a dance floor. My hometown has about 6 of these each year.
I think many southern women aspire to be 'southern belles,' which is a very different goal than many northern women have. Northern women tend to want respect, power and gender equality. Just my opinion.
The sad thing is these "southern belle" moms bring young girls into the beauty pageants at very early age. Looks like they are parading kiddie porn on the stage. I find it to be very creepy to see a young girl with big hair, make up and posing like a playmate centerfold.
The sad thing is these "southern belle" moms bring young girls into the beauty pageants at very early age. Looks like they are parading kiddie porn on the stage. I find it to be very creepy to see a young girl with big hair, make up and posing like a playmate centerfold.
hmm.. not where I'm from.
I've seen this sort of thing on the news before, and it seems creepy to me, too. Growing up, I knew two girls who were doing beauty pageants at a young age, and recall that they were not popular or well-liked.
We did take cotillion classes when we were young, boys and girls, where we all had to learn how to sit, stand, dance, talk, not talk, eat, dress, smile, et cetera, in a "proper" way. But we were about 13 or 14, and there was no pageant involved.
I think many southern women aspire to be 'southern belles,' which is a very different goal than many northern women have. Northern women tend to want respect, power and gender equality. Just my opinion.
As a southern-raised woman living up north, I totally agree. I'd also like to add that I think southern women are more aware of class and social standing than northern women. That plays into who they date. My best friend, who grew up lower middle class like me, almost wouldn't date her current boyfriend of 1+ year because he came from an upper class family. (Odd, I know) She was afraid of being ostracized in his family. People would talk about her, calling her a gold-digger. Crazy stuff.
I'd also like to add that I think southern women are more aware of class and social standing than northern women. That plays into who they date.
When I was in school down in Louisiana, I was friends with a guy and gal from relatively small-town Alabama. Even though they had been together for several years, this woman was *still* telling me how she didn't deserve him, because his family was so much more well-off, was part of "Alabama society" (whatever that means), etc. I'll never forget what my Yankee mouth said to her. "Hello!!!! He obviously ADORES you, what's the issue?"
They finally got married several years ago, and I'm sure his mom still is taking heart meds from the strain of "this girl" marrying her son.
With that being said though, I've met quite a few people with absolutely no southern roots who feel exactly the same way. My cousin married a wonderful guy several years ago. He's *gasp* a public school teacher. (He *did* get his Masters at Harvard, so that's one saving grace....LOL) We *still* joke that my uncle gets palpitations every time he thinks about THAT. I have to say that, personally, I've also had these thoughts once or twice in my life, especially when I was younger. That somehow, this person was either "too good" or "not good enough" based solely on social standing.
It's not been a tremendously huge issue for me, but fact is, I don't think that this sort of mindset is the sole purview of those south of the Mason-Dixon line.
As a southern-raised woman living up north, I totally agree. I'd also like to add that I think southern women are more aware of class and social standing than northern women. That plays into who they date.
You bet. You keep hitting the bulls eyes. I may look very conventional but, because of the fact that my parents were from Europe, my upbringing was not "standard issue" American.
Northern girls or western girls, who themselves may be more likely to have ethnic roots or have had much more exposure to wordly things, never thought anything about coming over to my house and just B.S. ing with my parents.
Most southern girls, even with my being a downtown guy in Atlanta in my mid-20s, had this glass partition (as opposed to glass ceiling) with me. Let's face it, part of the Southern culture of privilege extends into what you did in college (i.e. the Greek system). Once a southern sorority girl, always a southern sorority girl...that's what I've seen. I don't at all care for the Greek system and some schools (Rice, Notre Dame) will not have it because it is considered elitist, so would I ever want to be entangled with some chick who bought into that caste system? (Southern frat guys will always be a Southern frat guy, too.) Within 5 years of college, southern sorority and fraternity types tend to hook up. Hey, one can't argue with that... "water seeks its own level."
The sad thing is these "southern belle" moms bring young girls into the beauty pageants at very early age. Looks like they are parading kiddie porn on the stage. I find it to be very creepy to see a young girl with big hair, make up and posing like a playmate centerfold.
Actually, only a small percentage of Southern women do this. VERY small. I find it totally weird. Never had any friends that did it, either.
Northern women wear more clothes in the winter...but they are still cute. Southern women talk funny...but they are still cute.
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