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Old 02-28-2008, 08:49 PM
 
Location: Bay Area
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No one ever said that education or money equals class. Oftentimes it doesn't. However, once you've catapulted yourself somewhere, you don't generally step back. In fact, there is so much stratification among college types, too. I went to a small private religious university. You think the people who became doctors and dentists from the biology/pre-health curriculum (a fraternity in itself) hang around their peers who were studying business or engineering and making less than 1/2 what they do? They don't. So, yes, some very well paid professionals have a "chip on their shoulder," too.

I was quoting about the extremes (the rich suburbanite and pool guy, the doctor and the stripper). The rich powerful man, whether he is self-made or educated, that came from humble roots isn't going to date a stripper. They're just not. Get real.

"Pretty Woman" was a movie, it's rarely reality.
Thats funny my husband also went to a small private religious university and then went on to medical school. Very few of his friends are physicians like himself, most are professionals in business making half of what he does, no snobbery or chips included!

As for your get real, comment, not sure where that came from, I am very realistic, not that you would have any knowledge of me.

And yes, I do know a self made millionaire, private jets, multi million dollar homes. He was raised by a poor single mother and is self made in real estate and construction. Owns buildings and lands all over the country and world. He met a stripper and took her in, took care of her, turned her life around. I was friends with him and always wondered what he was doing with her.

It turns out he was gay, and not yet out of the closet. She is now a successful real estate agent and married to someone else.

SO in life anything can happen, there are very few true stereotypes and nothing is really set in stone. There is little correlation, except for people's preconceived notions and stereotypes, between class, money and power. Thats whats real.
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Old 02-28-2008, 09:06 PM
 
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Money isn't everything. I'm sure there are alot of rich people out there who aren't happy because money can't buy you happiness. I don't think anyone is better than anyone else. We are all given the same opportunities. I think it's important to treat everyone with kindness and respect.
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Old 02-28-2008, 11:07 PM
 
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He met a stripper and took her in, took care of her, turned her life around. I was friends with him and always wondered what he was doing with her.

SO in life anything can happen, there are very few true stereotypes and nothing is really set in stone.
Well, there you have it, it seemed weird and it turned out kinda weird, too...personally, beyond watching one, I wouldn't want a stripper's phone number and wouldn't want her to have mine. Nothing in common...and I like it that way.

Yes, there may not be 100% foolproof stereotypes, but there are patterns...most people are eclectic to one degree or another. We wouldn't have experts in profiling and other social sciences if there was no basis for it.

Those were my experiences I was relaying. My small private college gave me a very good education, but I'll leave it at that. I could have just as easily gone to a reputable state school and sometimes wish I did (no student loan check to write). I have several friends, fellow alumns, that commented on how stuck-up a lot of the people at that school were. In retrospect, they were right.
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Old 02-29-2008, 01:39 PM
 
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also, after being with engineers and physicists and computer scientists for a looooong time, well cut to the chase, I'd rather have someone blue collar with great hands who can fix things around the house and is more playful and appreciative in the bedroom and likes to go dancing, than all the degrees in the world, which really I got so tired of all the talking and theorizing and arguing about things i could care less about.

For me blue collar is more fun, more satisfying. (And i have advanced degrees myself, not that that has anything to do with anything. I work with computers, i edit technical materials, i don't need more brainwork at home, i just want to have fun and enjoy life.)
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Old 02-29-2008, 01:47 PM
 
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I also used to lie at clubs and tell girls I worked construction
DSR - see, it works...
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Old 02-29-2008, 04:42 PM
 
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unemployment is a big turnoff for me. i think work is good for everybody and builds character. blue or white collar are ok. work is good.
I know that "unemployment" is a deal breaker for many people. But, I just don't understand why some people think that everyone has to have a job.

How do you feel about people who don't work because they are retired? Is that considered unemployment? How about a person who chose not to work because they want to raise good kids- and not have their kids raised by a daycare or after-school program? What do you think about the 20-something guy/gal who has a Cambridge degree and doesn't work because they can live off of their family's wealth?

edit: (Forgot to say that I'm not criticizing or anything. Just discussing.)
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Old 02-29-2008, 05:38 PM
 
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i could care less about unemployment, but they do need to be financially self-sufficient, as in "I am not going to support them, they pay their own way." Plenty of ways to have money and not work: family trust, inheritance, pension, disability, insurance settlement, independently wealthy, investment income, military retiree, whatever. As long as they are financially caring for themselves, i don't care.
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Old 03-01-2008, 12:18 PM
 
Location: Marietta, GA
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When I was younger my "type" was white collar egghead. Didn't matter what they looked like. I liked genius types. The higher their IQs, the homlier they could be. You learn a lot from these guys, but you also spend all of your time feeling (being) mentally inferior to them.
Now I am older and wiser, and I married a man who is blue collar, but about as nice and as amiable as you could hope for. I can kick his butt on Jeopardy, but who cares?
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Old 03-01-2008, 07:56 PM
 
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[quote=NorthmeetsSouth;2997283] You learn a lot from these guys, but you also spend all of your time feeling (being) mentally inferior to them.


Boy can I relate to this- I have dated these types in the past! As a high school graduate with only some college and a technical certification I was always so excited to tell my friends and family what an wealthy, ambitious, successful man I had snagged a date with. I quickly realized that these types felt and acted superior and having me around was just another boost to their ego. A couple of them even talked down to me (not for long!) It was like they were purposely dating someone who an "underachiever" in their eyes because it was constant proof to them how much better they are Luckily current relationship is not like this!

I think the types I described will end up with with women who give them a run for their money as far as education/economic status. I think they are just dating us "common-folk" in the meantime. Or they will settle down with women with little self esteem who spend their lives being inferior. IMO it would take one of these 2 types of women to having a long term relationship with Mr. I'm so superior.

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Old 03-01-2008, 11:27 PM
 
Location: Ocean Shores, WA
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I came from a blue collar background and always felt inferior to those of a higher social position.

So I went to the Thrift Shop and got me a tuxedo, top hat, and a walking stick with a fake diamond on the handle.

I wear my tux and top hat and go shopping in WalMart and engage strangers in conversations about my real estate holdings on Park Place, and about the new hotels I'm going to put on my property after I sell my Utilities and Railroad holdings.

I can't really tell because a lot of them don't speak English, but I think they are really impressed and it makes me feel so superior.

And that's what class distinctions are all about isn't it?
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