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Old 02-27-2008, 07:59 PM
 
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Just imaging your attracted to someone, but decided not to pursue because you felt the person was out of your league.
what if you are a college professional who met the man or women of your dreams. was everything you ever wanted in looks, character, principles and personality, but there's one thing he/she is a high school drop out who works at Burger King. would you feel embarrasses
Is your white bf/gf collar arrogant, and spoiled with a sence of entitlement or a down to earth sweet heart. Do you think blue collar people have a chip on the shoulder?
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Old 02-27-2008, 08:11 PM
 
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My bf of two years went to college for a couple of years. I am a lawyer, with more letters after my name than a bowl of alphabet soup. Aside from the fact that I can kick his butt in jeopardy on a regular basis, it's no big deal, whatsoever.
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Old 02-27-2008, 08:54 PM
 
Location: Land of Thought and Flow
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My husband works at Taco Bell. I'm proud of him because he chose to do what makes him happy instead of taking on a job that he would not be happy at.

He's now a manager and currently on shift.



Blue collar, White collar, No collar - there's really no difference in the grand scheme of things. As long as you love what you're doing, everything will pan out.
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Old 02-27-2008, 09:50 PM
 
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I am a lawyer, with more letters after my name than a bowl of alphabet soup.
That's a gas...I like that choice of words. I have the same problem, so I tend to hide part of the alphabet. LOL.

I think that blue collar people sometimes do have a chip on their shoulder, more so than the other way around. I think that, ideally, most white collar people should think "well, they like tinkering with things, so they went into something that utilizes that" or "they found a job they like without college" or "they have another skill set."

Blue-collar people are much quicker to play the "reverse snobbery" card. Quite frankly, I've gotten sick of it. In my work, I have been just as friendly with the professionals as with the paraprofessionals. With the professionals, you sense a real bond because you've done the educational and examination route that they've traveled. With the paraprofessionals, you can go to lunch and cut up or go to "Taco Tuesdays" after work, but there's something more tenuous about it. When you're in the same work setting and it's ultimately YOU that tells THEM what to do, it's not that comfortable for them to be your "buddies" outside of work, unless there's a real genuine fondness. With similarly credentialed professionals, you tend to discuss an approach to a problem as equals.

That's what I have experienced. I prefer to be in situations that create less opportunity for (professional) jealousy.
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Old 02-27-2008, 10:09 PM
 
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That's a gas...I like that choice of words. I have the same problem, so I tend to hide part of the alphabet. LOL.
Easier said than done.

But, yeah, I see where you're coming from.
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Old 02-28-2008, 12:06 AM
 
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Although I attended college for a couple of years, I ended up dropping out, getting married, having 2 kids and then 6 years later got divorced. I have gotten some certifications in medical billing since-but by no means am I really "white collar".For the past 2 and a half years I have been in a relationship with a Dr. I admit I do feel uneasy at times when I hang with the "alphabet soup" gang. It is certainly a change of pace!I sometimes worry that he might be embarrassed when I can't chime in on the college alma matter conversations(although he has never given me reason to- I think it's just me)or when I tell people what I do for a living(I should't feel this way- I earn a comfortable living)I keep it in perspective by remembering that people are people and that we all have some fundamental things in common.I also secretly roll my eyes and laugh when they are overly pretentious.So far we have managed to find a really nice balance between hanging with the people with all the letters attached to their names and drinking a few cheap beers with the "common folk". It gives us a nice rounded perspective on the social circut and provides the best of both worlds.I feel that my struggle (at first) to make ends meet as a single parent has given me empathy for the less fortunate that money can't buy.
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Old 02-28-2008, 06:26 AM
 
Location: Bay Area
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My husband is a physician with 2 master's degrees on top of that, so 4 degrees total.

I am still working on my first (very indecisive) and going to law school after that.

He considers me the smart one (hey I'm dean's list every semester even if it is taking me FOREVER He is very intelligent but I'm definitely the logical, rational one in the relationship, making most of the decisions, etc.

I have had friends with doctorates who were so incompetent you wonder how they get through their day. I have known high school drop outs who were wise beyond their years. Of course,this is not always the case, but its just not an accurate way to judge peopel either.

Letters behind your name and degrees under your belt do not always measure your competency, wisdom, nor ability to handle your daily life.

That has to come from being a student of life and being conscious and aware of yourself and your environment. And this does not matter whether you are white collar, blue collar or no collar at all.
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Old 02-28-2008, 07:28 AM
 
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maybe I'm jaded but a female doctor or lawyer going for a burger flipper is almost unrealistic.

Thats why "Laura" who is married to a millionaire might bang "John" the pool guy on the side but won't drive off with him in his Ford Escort to live with him in the trailer park.

I have worked at a BMW dealership,I have seen the wives and "girlfriends" that bring in the car while hubby is at work and there has almost always been a certain air of "your lower than me" attitude from these women toward people who worked for their car.

Interesting that on the flip side a male doctor or lawyer or millionaire might be inclinded to hook up with a blue collar girl because she is hot,or even a stripper but then again thay are probably the ones that bring their BMW or Mercedes in for service that there sugardaddy bought.

I had to laugh recently in the Miami secrtion where a poster said he loves Miami because all the stars live there....pfhhttt like they give a rats ass about you.
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Old 02-28-2008, 08:05 AM
 
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I don't think it's that straightforward. College graduates can have "blue collar" jobs (e.g., construction) so I wouldn't choose someone just based on their job. However, I would not date a high school dropout who didn't take the time to get a GED. And I would probably have trouble relating to someone who didn't go to college. I just don't think we would have enough in common. A couple of generations ago, though, this would've been different. Neither of my grandfathers graduated from high school because they had to work on the farm. However, it's a different world today and while I respect people's choices, I personally would not have much in common with someone who dropped out.
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Old 02-28-2008, 09:28 AM
 
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I have worked at a BMW dealership,I have seen the wives and "girlfriends" that bring in the car while hubby is at work and there has almost always been a certain air of "your lower than me" attitude from these women toward people who worked for their car.
Anybody who talks down to the person who works on their car is a true piece of $hit. I have talked to my mechanics for as long as I can remember. Between reading ad nauseum and talking to them, I am extremely knowledgeable about cars (and that's why my last car hit 250,000 miles).

The problem is that these chicks KNOW that they could never attain that standard of living on their own. So, in reality, it's a superiority complex to cover an inferiority complex. And that's why there are stories of women who have to "look the other way" when their super-monied husbands are banging other women...it wouldn't be a good idea to "rock the apple cart" as they say.

Doesn't it want to make you throw in some nasty spark plugs or used oil into their car? They'd never know. And, I know you couldn't/wouldn't.

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