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Exactly! There are even women on this forum I am attracted to but them being married stops me from pursuing that. I also no longer will be friends with a woman is in a relationship because the last time I was friends with her, the man was quite hostile so never again.
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Originally Posted by green_mariner
A horrible experience. Having a man be hostile towards you is crazy. I've been in the situation you're describing once. One time is scary enough. I tend to avoid married women that I don't know. On the other hand, there must be some reason this hasn't happened more. Growing up I've had more female friends that male friends(this includes the ones in relationships). I'm wondering if the lack of hostility from their boyfriends/fiances/husbands is due to..
1)Understanding the difference between having a friend of the opposite gender and cheating
2)Me being small-statured
3)Being trusting of both me and their significant other
4)The guys being friends with me too
5)Me having an innocent, nerdy disposition
I don't have this happen too much. I've guys in relationships get hostile towards me, but not on account of their gf/wife. Most of the couples I have been involved with showed no hostility towards me. A lot of the times it is because I paid at least as much attention to the man as the woman. I myself am pretty tall, however, I'm not that big.
So, if she has a fiance and you know she is interested, then are you looking for just a fling? I doubt you're expecting anything long term with this one. ("I'm know fool" as you put it)
I don't have this happen too much. I've guys in relationships get hostile towards me, but not on account of their gf/wife. Most of the couples I have been involved with showed no hostility towards me. A lot of the times it is because I paid at least as much attention to the man as the woman. I myself am pretty tall, however, I'm not that big.
In my case, I'm 5'5" with an athletic built. A bulk of female friends I made, I made them between ages 18-25. I had a smaller build between ages 18-24.
Most of the time, I met the female before I met the male. In some cases, the female was single when I met her, and then she got in a relationship. Most were people I went to school with. My university was 60 percent female. And looking at high school, I was more likely to sit with females (or tables that were a mix of male/females) than with all males. I got less hostility from females over all.
With the guys, my theory is that I was never considered the guy that would make anyone jealous. I figured most guys never had any hostility towards me because I wasn't considered most females' cup of tea. Small, boyish-looking, nerdy. It could have been that I got to know the guy too and became friends with him. I find alot of hostility comes from fear/jealousy. It could have been that alot of guys trusted me.
Also, there are plenty of single women running around, so why waste your time?
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