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So...
You decide what to do with your life
You take a meaningful decision on your own
But if you succeed at feeling better through your own effort you thank jesus
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Personally I don't understand why he's festering on the past but if I were you I'd tell him how upsetting it is for you to see him like this and hopefully his feelings for you might aid him and feel better perhaps?
Winter is a bad time for a lot of people - me included. However, there seems to be much more going on, and probably is with your relationship. The water level is rising and you're both on opposite banks. Do you want to fight the current and swim to the other bank? Or, turn around and look for food and shelter? These decisions are gut wrenching!!
All right, I'm going to try to be fair in how I answer this.
Your boyfriend has been begging you to move to Florida for quite some time, hasn't he, and you've refused? I can't remember the whole story.
You're holding him physically to a place he can't stand and, son or no, you'll lose him this way.
I think it's not very honest for you to post questions like this without giving the real background. JMO. This guy is just plain too old for all this, IMO. He is definitely too old to be dealing with a three-year-old. Yes, SOME men can do it but many can not by that time and your boyfriend is among the latter. I don't know what you were expecting, having a child with a man who is nearly a senior citizen.
This poor man is getting older and just wants to go somewhere warm, for heaven's sake, and you've got this constant drama and so on...I think it's natural that by now, he's depressed. He's trapped with a very young child at his old age (and thinking toward being in his LATE 70s and paying for college), he's trapped in a physical locale he's been dying to get away from and he's trapped with a much younger woman who has all the energy in the world to constantly mess with his head on this whole moving issue. Of course he's depressed.
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All right, I'm going to try to be fair in how I answer this.
Your boyfriend has been begging you to move to Florida for quite some time, hasn't he, and you've refused? I can't remember the whole story.
You're holding him physically to a place he can't stand and, son or no, you'll lose him this way.
I think it's not very honest for you to post questions like this without giving the real background. JMO. This guy is just plain too old for all this, IMO. He is definitely too old to be dealing with a three-year-old. Yes, SOME men can do it but many can not by that time and your boyfriend is among the latter. I don't know what you were expecting, having a child with a man who is nearly a senior citizen.
This poor man is getting older and just wants to go somewhere warm, for heaven's sake, and you've got this constant drama and so on...I think it's natural that by now, he's depressed. He's trapped with a very young child at his old age (and thinking toward being in his LATE 70s and paying for college), he's trapped in a physical locale he's been dying to get away from and he's trapped with a much younger woman who has all the energy in the world to constantly mess with his head on this whole moving issue. Of course he's depressed.
I mean it sincerely. Being trapped that way in EVERY major facet of one's life absolutely will cause depression. There is no way out and by the time he can emotionally and financially relaxed he'll be...well, he may be dead (given average lifespan).
He is stopped at every angle and he did it all with his...Oh well.
Yeah, he's depressed, duh.
OP, "all" you have isn't prayer...actually, you have every piece of power here...and just as he trapped himself with one body part, you obtained total power with one of yours. Congrats. Now your boyfriend wishes he could die. No shoot.
If you have ANY compassion, rather than sit there and pray, just freaking do this ONE thing for him and allow the move. Allow him that tiny piece of happiness, and dignity in being able/allowed to make at least this one life decision.
Yes, prayer works. But if you two are to be married, it would help if you both were on the same page. He should be praying, too. If anyone is feeling trapped, then they can just separate. You don't have to stay in a situation that depresses you. You're with a much older man, he's with a much younger woman - if he's depressed about having a kid at his age, then he should have had an operation before being with a younger woman. If you can't come to a happy compromise, then perhaps you shouldn't get married. Sometimes it's better to go your separate ways than to stick around with someone who is always unhappy and risk becoming resentful toward that person.
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