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lol that's ok. He is a ladies man so he is not a bad looking guy but I gotta say that kiss felt weird lmao. His mom almost saw what happened so that would have been even more awkward. Till this day when I see him he will wink at me lol. I don't see him much anyway probably like 3 times a year or less.
Many older and lonely people find companions who AREN'T related to them to be with. I suggest you follow their leads.
My biggest issue aside from the inherent squick factor is what has already been pointed out -- if you end the affair then she might never talk to you again. Your thought that you can go back to what you were (just cousins I guess, hah) strikes me as naive. There is little to gain from this liaison and a lot to lose.
The OP says they didn't grow up together "as family", hence minimal "ick" factor. They don't intend to necessarily get married and are too old for kids. It is legal in many places anyway...so what is the problem? What two adults do is their business...<shrug>
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Time changes a lot of things, maybe this thread belongs in retirement, but the question remains, Should You date your first cousin ? I have that opportunity I am sure, yet still feel a bit like it's wrong, not sure why, considering we are in our senior years and loanly people. I would like to know how others would approach this .
I personally see nothing wrong with it. It was common in the past and the major issues with it were the genetic anomalies that would be introduced into the bloodline. In your case, it is a moot point.
Genetic issues truly come into play with many generations of incest, like what happened to the Habsburg royal family over many generations. It's unlikely two first cousins who have no genetic history of incest would have a kid with one eye or something like that.
My primary concern is still that he has a lot to lose from the relationship going south and I do not think he is being realistic as to the potential consequences of the end of the affair. It would stand to hurt him more than if he put in an effort to find someone to be with who is unrelated.
Genetic issues truly come into play with many generations of incest, like what happened to the Habsburg royal family over many generations. It's unlikely two first cousins who have no genetic history of incest would have a kid with one eye or something like that.
My primary concern is still that he has a lot to lose from the relationship going south and I do not think he is being realistic as to the potential consequences of the end of the affair. It would stand to hurt him more than if he put in an effort to find someone to be with who is unrelated.
Burgler, stop trying to compare this to gay relationships. That is a different topic for many reasons and is unrelated to this discussion.
Actually it isn't.
People just pick and choose what they want to support and what is cool and hip to support at the time.
I think two consenting adults should be able to live how they wish and not have to worry about other people. But people shouldn't act like there are differences in the matter so they can still feel progressive while saying " eew" to another situation.
Sorry, I'm going with ewww too. Back in HS my cousin's son (I always said 2nd cousin but I think it might be 1st cousin once removed) came to my graduation. My family is odd in that I have cousins more than 20 years older than me so often their kids are oldr as well. My friend was interested in him but I could tell he wasn't so I discouraged her. She asked if I "liked" him and I was totally creeped out. I did once flirt a little with a step-cousin but even that felt odd. It's a huge country so no real reason to "keep it in the family" ( if you're in the US of course). I realize one incident isn't much risk but I've read so much about the mess those European families made genetically my mind immediately goes to "No" even if procreation won't be happening.
People just pick and choose what they want to support and what is cool and hip to support at the time.
I think two consenting adults should be able to live how they wish and not have to worry about other people. But people shouldn't act like there are differences in the matter so they can still feel progressive while saying " eew" to another situation.
Well, I for one, do not choose to support something based on whether or not I find it to be 'hip () or cool. I choose to support it because I have honestly thought over how I feel about a particular subject, and I support what I feel is best or the right thing to do.
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So, while I believe two consenting related adults can do as they please, and I would never do anything to hurt or discriminate against them, that whole thing still gets rated ewwww for me. But no one needs to care about that because that is just my PERSONAL feeling about the matter. And i'm entitled to that.
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) or cool. I choose to support it because I have honestly thought over how I feel about a particular subject, and I support what I feel is best or the right thing to do. 
