Recently Divorced, Girlfriend with 2 kids wont work (woman, husband, younger)

[behindthescreen]

This is not going to end well for all kids involved.

Do not get this girl pregnant.

[nirvana07]

Originally Posted by behindthescreen

Do not get this girl pregnant.

This times 100

[funymann]

Originally Posted by SelfRescuingPrincess

Don't be mad at the women - be mad at the idiot men who willingly support women who contribute nothing.

That's what I was thinking.

Her kids... Her problem to feed and clothes them.

In my opinion there is no SAHM when you are a single parent.

OP you are a sucker for a pretty red head. Kick her and her kids out!!!

[LowonLuck]

How old are her kids? It is very likely if she has no work experience, she won't even make enough to cover daycare. Would you be willing to cover what she can't, as long as she is getting up and going to work everyday?

[funymann]

Originally Posted by LowonLuck

How old are her kids? It is very likely if she has no work experience, she won't even make enough to cover daycare. Would you be willing to cover what she can't, as long as she is getting up and going to work everyday?

What if he was not around what would she do?

Yeah, this isn't his problem... It's hers!!

[reneeh63]

Originally Posted by evol7

Personality wise, we mesh pretty well.. and she's a pretty cute lil red head

I guess that's enough, then?


Why are you willing to shortchange your own kids for her and her kids? She's not pulling her weight...but obviously you're thinking with your other head - maybe that's why you're divorced to start with? Sounds like you moved in waaaay to early. Did you really have to do that to get with her?

[carnivalday]

You moved them into your house....why?

What was she doing before you took over supporting them. They had to be living somewhere and eating some food somehow.

She wont change her position. You have to change yours. Cute is all well and good, but there has to be some substance there somehow. I dont see any.

[gentlearts]

She is messed up. Getting divorced and breaking up a family is a huge adjustment, and she shouldn't have moved in with you. The arrangement with you is bad for her kids and your kids. It is providing her with a crutch that is keeping her from moving forward.

I've been there, so I know that fear of change is at work here. If you can push her to go after her children's support money, and to get a job, you will be doing her a big favor. Do it, even if it costs you to lose the relationship.

[evol7]

Originally Posted by nirvana07

This times 100

I'm fixed, so no worries there

[LowonLuck]

Originally Posted by funymann

What if he was not around what would she do?

Yeah, this isn't his problem... It's hers!!

If she didn't love with him, she would most likely qualify for food and housing assistance.