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Old 01-08-2017, 12:33 PM
 
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No, I'm saying that if you want to focus on the negatives of the situation (and there are some negatives), then focus on the REAL negatives that I listed. Don't start tearing yourself down by saying you don't know why she's attracted to you, etc.
Ooohhh ok. Gotcha! Lol
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Old 01-09-2017, 03:34 AM
 
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You know what, I think im going to tell her very soon. I've come to the conclusion that it doesn't matter because 1) she apparently wants to be single for a year 2) I'm probably not her "type" anyway. It's eating me up and I just want to get it off my chest. Good or bad, I need to tell her to relieve myself.
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Old 01-09-2017, 03:59 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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If you can handle rejection, shrub it off, and move on? then by all means, go for it.

Personally, I have a minimum one year rule when it comes to getting emotionally involved with a woman that recently ends a relatioship. People in this post breakup stage typically aren't in good position to be making sound relatioship decisions.
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Old 01-09-2017, 04:15 AM
 
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Ugh! I don't know what to do! I can handle rejection, I just don't know about this scenario because it's complicated(roommate/friend). I tried to push her away the other day by telling her I'm going to "give her some space" as a friend. Since I know she may be going through alot. She rejected it(in a good way)by essentially saying that I'm stuck with her since we live together so there's no way I can give her space.
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Old 01-09-2017, 04:32 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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You can give her space, but you just dont want to, Lol.
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Old 01-09-2017, 04:36 AM
 
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You can give her space, but you just dont want to, Lol.
Truth

I need to though. I don't think she wants me to give her space honestly. There's been several times I tried and wasn't successful.
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Old 01-09-2017, 04:37 AM
 
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I wish I could set up a poll about what I should do lol
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Old 01-09-2017, 05:40 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I wish I could set up a poll about what I should do lol
If you set up a poll, people will just choose "go for it" because they are bored of watching you capitulate. I think if you tallied the posts here anyway, "go for it" would outnumber "no way."

You just need to decide. Indecision is an unattractive quality.
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Old 01-09-2017, 06:38 AM
 
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Ok, I'm going to do it. I just have to figure out how to word it properly to not make it awkward.
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Old 01-09-2017, 07:09 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Ok, I'm going to do it. I just have to figure out how to word it properly to not make it awkward.
Remember this idea?

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It's nice that you are respecting her wish to stay single for a year, so one thing you could say to test the waters is to ask her about that.

"So ... are you still set on being single for a year?" Or ask her when the year is up! LOL
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