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Old 12-31-2016, 08:55 PM
 
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Matched with a guy on Tinder, however, he was only vacationing so he's now back home and over a thousand miles away. We texted, spoke on the phone, etc for a few days and really hit it off. He's asking me to wait for him to be in town again before going on any other dates (in 2-3 months). If he was here, I'd go out with him without a second thought. I just don't see how this would work out at all? Cus if it does become something more, we'd face the problem of being long distance. Should I let this one go before catching feelings?
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Old 12-31-2016, 09:02 PM
 
Location: Dallas Texas
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Lol, hell no, dont wait! What if y'all meet and its not good, you may have passed up several good guys while waiting for this "maybe". Its not your fault hes not available.
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Old 12-31-2016, 09:03 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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Ridiculous! Kinda weird if you ask me!
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Old 12-31-2016, 09:06 PM
 
Location: Dallas Texas
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I mean I understand he doesnt want you to get taken by someone else before he gets a chance, but thats selfish for him to expect you to wait.
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Old 12-31-2016, 09:06 PM
 
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Matched with a guy on Tinder, however, he was only vacationing so he's now back home and over a thousand miles away. We texted, spoke on the phone, etc for a few days and really hit it off. He's asking me to wait for him to be in town again before going on any other dates (in 2-3 months). If he was here, I'd go out with him without a second thought. I just don't see how this would work out at all? Cus if it does become something more, we'd face the problem of being long distance. Should I let this one go before catching feelings?
Is he also not going to date anyone else until he sees you again?
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Old 12-31-2016, 09:08 PM
 
Location: In a place beyond human comprehension
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Depends.

Are you the type that likes to focus on one person at a time or do you have better luck at multi dating

If you want to wait....wait. If not....continue doing what you do.
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Old 12-31-2016, 09:12 PM
 
Location: Southern New Hampshire
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Matched with a guy on Tinder, however, he was only vacationing so he's now back home and over a thousand miles away. We texted, spoke on the phone, etc for a few days and really hit it off. He's asking me to wait for him to be in town again before going on any other dates (in 2-3 months). If he was here, I'd go out with him without a second thought. I just don't see how this would work out at all? Cus if it does become something more, we'd face the problem of being long distance. Should I let this one go before catching feelings?
What exactly does the "etc." mean? Did you ever meet in person? Go out on an actual date? Just meet to have sex? (with a total stranger, ugh, but that's just me) Hard to know exactly what you're looking for without knowing what the "etc" actually MEANS.
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Old 12-31-2016, 09:18 PM
 
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What exactly does the "etc." mean? Did you ever meet in person? Go out on an actual date? Just meet to have sex? (with a total stranger, ugh, but that's just me) Hard to know exactly what you're looking for without knowing what the "etc" actually MEANS.

We skyped. Never met in person. Basically we hit it off without physically seeing each other, which makes a huge difference I'm sure.

@Sweet, he said he would but who knows lol
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Old 12-31-2016, 09:22 PM
 
Location: 🇬🇧 In jolly old London! 🇬🇧
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Matched with a guy on Tinder, however, he was only vacationing so he's now back home and over a thousand miles away. We texted, spoke on the phone, etc for a few days and really hit it off. He's asking me to wait for him to be in town again before going on any other dates (in 2-3 months). If he was here, I'd go out with him without a second thought. I just don't see how this would work out at all? Cus if it does become something more, we'd face the problem of being long distance. Should I let this one go before catching feelings?
I'd tell him to sod off if he asked that of me.

I'm ABSOLUTELY certain with Sofia vergara, Megan fox and even the Dallas cowboy cheerleaders I'd " really hit it off " with..... But even they would still get the same answer! LMAO

Seriously though my love what's the point if he's over a thousand miles away? Plus Hand McLovin is right you'll miss out on possibly meeting some right good blokes.

And yes I completely believe him that he would wait for that long as well for a stranger ( Think of it that way )
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Old 12-31-2016, 09:24 PM
 
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no do not wait, date who you want. if it's meant to be you will still be unattached when he does come around. you owe him nothing, what sort of man would ask you to "wait" after such a short time? is he going to wait too? did he declare him self to you?
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