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TWO DAYS AGO at work.. i'm in the kitchen and i lift up my hair (and yes i have a zit on my neck) all of the sudden a co-worker of mine yells out
"what is that on your neck?"
I' m like "what are you talking about?"
She walks over to me lifts up my hair and says loudly "IT LOOKS LIKE BUG BITES"
I walk away and she yells to me "MAYBE ITS ACNE"
WHAT SHOULD I DO? SHOULD I TELL HER HOW DISRESPECTFUL THAT WAS FOR HER TO SAY?
Last edited by willowtree22; 02-29-2008 at 05:44 AM..
Too late now IMO. Chances are she won't even remember what she said. Things like this you need to nip when they happen so the person gets a feel for the type of situation in which they do things...
Not sure that made sense. Analogy.
Ya gotta swat a dog pooping on the floor while he's doing it so he understands fully what you're upset about.
If you really think it will make you feel better, and help your relationship with this woman, then talk to her. NICELY. Don't start a big thing with her. You are going to have to work with her every day. Just let her know, in a nice way, that what she said hurt your feelings or embarassed you. If people were in the room and heard this, she looks rude. If you turn it into a big deal, you are going to look like the hyper-sensitive one! People will be afraid to talk to you in fear of you blowing things out of proportion.
She ALREADY KNOWS how disrespectful her comment was......she probably prides herself at being what she deems to be "bold"....but, the moment passed! The time to have DONE something was then...you will get your chance though, I'm sure of it!! Her mouth will get her in trouble; if not with you, surely someone else!
Hang on. This happened two days ago, you've stewed about it this long, and then took the time to ask a bunch of us ninnies on the web what we think?
Well, okay.
1) You're way too thin-skinned.
2) You know, probably the most overrated thing in the world (except natural childbirth, according to my beloved wife) is "talking it over." If you're seething with resentment over a stupid, tactless remark like that and then go to her, you might as well wear a sign around your neck that says, "Emotionally fragile with not enough to worry about." That being said, "Talking It Over" should be reserved for really important stuff, like dealing with outright harrassment or telling your lover that the divorce won't be going through after all.
3) The way to deal with halfwits like the one you mention is with both immediacy and restraint. Just look her in the eye for about two seconds, arch an eyebrow, and simply ask incredulously, "Do you mind?" Then leave the room as if you'd just dealt with a minor annoyance.
4) Repeat if necessary.
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