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Suppose after a couple of months of being in a relationship with my girlfriend, I question her as to why she chose a complete loser like me for her boyfriend. I emphasize that I have nothing to offer, I'm not attractive looking at all, and have no special talents of any kind.
Will she likely break up with me and look for someone more worthy of her time?
If this is how you feel about yourself, why bother to look for a girlfriend at all? What motivated you to get into a relationship?
I'm actually an electrical contractor, so I run my own business and do all the work myself. However, I'm a loser because I'm 44 years old and never been in a serious relationship. I've had a few short-lived relationships down through the years, but none ever materialized into anything. I'm not the best looking guy either. I'm short, scrawny, and losing a lot of hair. I also have no talents of any kind. I can't sing well at all, nor play any instruments. There is nothing about me that would attract a woman, and especially not now at my age.
And just to clarify, I do NOT have a girlfriend at this time. The original post was a hypothetical situation. I haven't had a girlfriend since 2011.
RE: underlined--you and a lot of other guys in their 40's. Nothing new there.
RE: bolded--women are not looking for a trained seal. They're looking for a good, stable guy. You apparently do have a talent for running a business, and you're skilled at your trade. And no one will ever accuse you of being arrogant, lol! (Most women HATE arrogance!) And AS WE KEEP TELLING THE GUYS HERE until we're hoarse (but they never believe us), short is irrelevant! Scrawny--who cares??!! Irrelevant!
Why do you think women should care about that? You're tuned into the wrong channel, OP.Change the channel. It's that simple.
This has nothing to do with my electrical abilities. I almost always pass inspections on the first try, except for an occasional instance where I needed to add something that I didn't know was required. All my clients have been more than satisfied with my work. So this is not the issue here.
This is very much the issue here. You don't view your ability to run a successful business and do electrical work as a talent. You seem to define "talent" as the ability to entertain people. This is where you're going wrong.
Yet another guy who creates a woe-is-me thread, only to ignore the good advice he gets.
No point in continuing, here, folks; show's over. The OP isn't serious about taking advice.
This is very much the issue here. You don't view your ability to run a successful business and do electrical work as a talent. You seem to define "talent" as the ability to entertain people. This is where you're going wrong.
Well, that being said, people with the ability to entertain others will always be viewed as much more attractive and desirable than those without such ability.
Well, that being said, people with the ability to entertain others will always be viewed as much more attractive and desirable than those without such ability.
... by those who value "the ability to entertain others."
There are people on earth who aren't groupies, though. I would start by expanding your friend group to people with OTHER interests besides bluegrass so you can meet some of those other people.
And zentropa's right. As long as you view "women" as one group with the same desires, you won't have any success. Ruling out divorced women is just self-defeating anyway.
Well, that being said, people with the ability to entertain others will always be viewed as much more attractive and desirable than those without such ability.
And yet, lots of people with a low entertainment quotient end up married. Why do you think that is?
OP, much more attractive than the ability to entertain people is the ability to believe in oneself and to be upbeat and confident. That is what's sinking your ship. Your own mind is doing a number on you, and dooming you. You're doing it to yourself: self-sabotage. Work on that. Stop being your own worst enemy.
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