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3 months in and he's already turning you down for sex? Something is definitely up. No matter how busy a guy is, if he likes you, he'll make time for you. From my experience at least. Hope you didn't get back together with him.
So I've been formally in a relationship with a guy for 3 months now. There's been a lot of bumps in the road regarding him not making me feel cared for or special. We've had many fights and arguments over it and I've explained in great detail what I would like so we can stop arguing about it so often. He agreed that he would be more attentive and I told him that I would try my hardest to be more understanding of him
We barely spoke 6 words to each other for the past 3 days and the last 2 of the three days I kept hinting at that I really wanted sex. After calling him 2 times last night he finally responded with a text saying that he had passed out. So I called him back a third time and he answered and I told him I was in the mood. He said 'nah, not tonight good night'. And that was it then I hung up. This is the second time in the span of five days he's turned me down when I initiated sex. Call me selfish but frankly I'm over it. I thought that was a big part of being committed to one person that you could depend on them to fulfill and satisfy those needs. But all he leaves me is disappointed constantly. I've already explained this to him 4 or a 5 times in depth. And I never see any effort from him afterwards to change all it does is cause arguments and more distance.
So last night I decided to make a clean break without an explanation or drama and simply blocked him from calling me and blocked him on social media. I don't think he's going to realize how serious I was until he realizes I'm gone
I honestly don't feel bad about ghosting him at all
Why should you. Apparently it's all about you!
So you failed at your attempts to control and manipulate this guy to meet your needs huh?
Then you 'hint' that you are ready for sex even though upset he isn't the way you want him to be.
Then how dare he turn down your advances for sex!!
The thing is I did model those behaviours, it wasn't just me saying give, give, give. He never caught the hint and since when is openly discussing your relationship problems lecturing?
I'll wait for some better advice
You got the best advice from a mature, experienced woman and because you are not mature enough to accept her advice you want different advice.
I suppose perhaps; He was such a jerk for not treating you special! It's his loss!!
I hope he stays gone aswell. Guess I set my expectations too high
No one can meet any expectations if they are unaware of what those expectations are.
In the future you should perhaps make a written checklist of your expectations and give it to any romantic interest so they will know what they need to do to keep the relationship all about you without a thought wasted on their needs.
2 months of total drama...? Ghosts, be gone & stay gone.
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