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I'd be up front about it. Don't say something like "Hi, I'm Joe, and I don't want kids. Whats your name?" But when discussing things like kids, saying something like "I like kids, they just aren't for me" is definitely appropriate.
Me, I want kids. Well, one kid. My gf likes and wants kids, but her biggest worry is about the effect it would have on her body. For example, she'd like a boob job - I like them just fine the way they are now. But I did agree that after one child (which is all I really want) I would definitely be ok with her getting that done if she still wanted to, to feel comfortable herself after the effects of having a child.
Its important to know just what it is about kids that you want/don't want also. As mentioned, my gf is concerned over how it would effect her body - and she isn't the only one to think that way. So, thats another point of discussion is the reasons why, and why some parents are suited for adoption as opposed to their own children (aside from being infertile).
Do you think 19 year olds who never want kids should wait for a few years till they meet a girl?
Wait for what? Wait to have a procedure that may be irreversible done? Absolutely!
Honestly, I really think - and I don't mean to talk down to you, please don't take me wrong - I really think you're worrying about the wrong thing at the wrong time. You should be having the time of your life! Don't rush adulthood - it ain't all it's cracked up to be - and don't deal with things that you don't have to right now. Go out, have a great time, and in 6 or 7 years when you're thinking it is time to settle down, THEN deal with this...in the meantime, be young. It only happens once.
Wait for what? Wait to have a procedure that may be irreversible done? Absolutely!
Honestly, I really think - and I don't mean to talk down to you, please don't take me wrong - I really think you're worrying about the wrong thing at the wrong time. You should be having the time of your life! Don't rush adulthood - it ain't all it's cracked up to be - and don't deal with things that you don't have to right now. Go out, have a great time, and in 6 or 7 years when you're thinking it is time to settle down, THEN deal with this...in the meantime, be young. It only happens once.
From the answers I've gotten, most young girls would change their minds and would want kids in the future. That's kind of a turn off for me.
All the more reason for you to wait it out...let everyone settle into who they really are and then make life decisions. Some of those young girls who think they want kids will find out within 10 years that they don't after all.
Life's a crap shoot - it may stay the same or it may change...no guarantees, my friend...
All the more reason for you to wait it out...let everyone settle into who they really are and then make life decisions. Some of those young girls who think they want kids will find out within 10 years that they don't after all.
Life's a crap shoot - it may stay the same or it may change...no guarantees, my friend...
Let me point out some reasons...
*I suffer nervous breakdowns.
*I'm more concerned on my career.
*I'm not the father type.
*I don't want to feel old.
So, like I said - why rush?
It won't stop nervous breakdowns
It won't boost your career
Not getting a surgical solution won't magically make you a daddy
And exactly the same thing for the last.
You should still be using condoms, and any person you're with should be taking preventative measures as well - mostly because you don't want to catch a communicable disease, children aside. Which, btw, happens to prevent children. So its a two-for-one deal, with no trip to a doctor (aside from getting tested of course, which you should do even after any such surgery)
Pretty types are usually the ones that want kids because they know the child will be attractive and have better success in life. Life is hard for ugly people.
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Originally Posted by LAFan
Could I have my friend ask a pretty girl if she's the kind who doesn't want kids?
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