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It wasn't a mediocre selfie. Your selfies look horrible. That one pic was magic. The hair was professionally done, the angle was amazing, and the coloring of your face looked like it might have been professionally made up (but not in an obvious way). either that, or the lighting where you took it was really good.
I'm not into men, so perhaps my judgment is off, but the guy in this pic looks great to me! Sure, he might be a little chubby (his sides are cropped out and black is slimming, so it's hard to tell), but I can say from personal experience that a man can be overweight and still date attractive women. That's not the issue here.
I'm not into men, so perhaps my judgment is off, but the guy in this pic looks great to me! Sure, he might be a little chubby (his sides are cropped out and black is slimming, so it's hard to tell), but I can say from personal experience that a man can be overweight and still date attractive women. That's not the issue here.
so that pic is how i look now... minus 50 lbs - yes 50... also I have a very trendy slicked back with faded sides hairstyle instead of the bowl cut nonsense in that pic
All the people telling me I'm very handsome aren't delusional
so that pic is how i look now... minus 50 lbs - yes 50... also I have a very trendy slicked back with faded sides hairstyle instead of the bowl cut nonsense in that pic
All the people telling me I'm very handsome aren't delusional
That means the problem lies elsewhere. And, sorry to say it, but the problem isn't with half the earth's population (aka women). That means you have to look at the aspects of yourself that don't involve your looks-- your personality, your communication style, your attitude, etc.
Which people assign you a numerical rating? What is the conversation that results in it?
Yeah, I find that odd, too; and consistent with the OP's strange (almost spectrum-y, perhaps?) obsession with "stats." I've dated women of various ages, races, cultures, shapes, sizes, intelligence levels, socioeconomic statuses, etc., and I've never had anyone give me a numerical rating. Who does that? And why?
Speaking of "stats," I also noticed that the OP is focused on income. While income is certainly a tangible, objectively quantifiable construct (unlike numerical ratings for looks), I've also never once had a woman ask me my income, in decades of dating women from all walks of life. The only woman I've ever even shared that information with was the one woman I lived with, because we were sharing expenses and considering marriage (and the rough financial planning that goes with that). I'm sure the others could venture a broad guess at my general income range (i.e. middle class) if they had wanted, based on my job, where I lived, what I drove, the vacations I took, etc., but nobody ever cared to know specifics. In my experience, woman are generally interested in men who have interesting careers that they are passionate and ambitious about, and who can take care of themselves financially, but the only reason I can imagine a woman caring to know your exact income is if she is a gold digger, in which case she will probably be looking for someone older than 28 making more than $150K-- a sugar daddy, if you will.
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I'm not into men, so perhaps my judgment is off, but the guy in this pic looks great to me! Sure, he might be a little chubby (his sides are cropped out and black is slimming, so it's hard to tell), but I can say from personal experience that a man can be overweight and still date attractive women. That's not the issue here.
It's not that he's chubby, or non-Anglo looking, etc. That's insignificant to women if a guy has charm, and I don't mean in a sleazy way or a cliché way. If he's comfortable around women and has a knack for making them feel like they're the center of his attention, they won't notice whether he looks generic or whatever. It's that he keeps saying he's really good-looking, he looks like this or that movie star, blah blah. The fact is that he isn't THAT good-looking. He's exaggerating his qualities, so I (and others) was just trying to be real with him. Not in a mean way, but to emphasize that personality is important, and for him--more important than the guys with the all-American good looks that get women's attention right off the bat.
I'm just trying to be realistic with him, because I think he's totally unrealistic with us about how AWESOME! he is. And yeah, yeah, OP, I know you can be engaging, etc. etc. I'm talking about being able to break the ice with women, which is your stumbling block.
That little smile was nice in that pic, though. A smile helps.
Honestly, it's meh. I would NOT say $150k is very successful. Like I said I think there is a disconnect somehow some where. Your original post reeks of arrogant, the part that dating women over 35 is easy. Hello, who are you talking to? Chopped livers?
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It's not that he's chubby, or non-Anglo looking, etc. That's insignificant to women if a guy has charm
Agreed. That was my point.
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
It's that he keeps saying he's really good-looking, he looks like this or that movie star, blah blah. The fact is that he isn't THAT good-looking. He's exaggerating his qualities, so I (and others) was just trying to be real with him.
Fair enough. I agree that he doesn't look like a movie star. I'm just saying he's good-looking enough that looks likely aren't the problem. It's the personality characteristics (which you have noted, and which he has displayed here) that are likely holding him back.
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