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I'm interested to hear which decade people thought was better: their 20's or their 30's.
I'm a woman in my early 30's. Turning 30 for me was a huge milestone, and a birthday marked with significant anxiety. First of all, when I was 29, a lot of things happened that year that were big changes. One was that we moved halfway across the country to DC, where neither of us had ever been before and where we knew no one, so it was a big change for me. Another was that at 30 I had just made a huge career change decision--changing careers for the third time. It was a decision that involved a lot of soul searching and anxiety. Also, around 30 I finally became aware that my husband and I had different views about having children. I realized that while I always figured that I wanted children, by age 30 I never felt any desire for them, while DH was ready to start reproducing. This mismatch in our desire for children was creating extreme anxiety for me (and still does).
I was anxious about turning 30 for about a year beforehand. But after I turned 30, much of that anxiety disappeared. However, so far, I feel that my 20's were a better time overall than my 30's have been thus far.
The reason is that your 20's are a time of exploration--trying new things, figuring out who you are, etc. It was definitely a decade of exploration for me. I moved a bunch of times, tried out four different cities, tried out a bunch of different careers, met my hubby, and tried to find myself. I'm still at the finding myself stage, so that is still ongoing in my 30's. I feel like in your 30's people expect you to be settled, and we are definitely not settled at all. We're still nomadic, have no idea where (what city) we're going to settle down in, and we're still renters. We don't have kids and don't plan on having any for at least a few more years.
I had more friends in my 20's, compared to 0 now. I have more life experience now, but I had a lot more fun in my 20's, which I really miss.
I'm interested to hear about which decade you thought was better.
Last edited by doglover29; 03-01-2008 at 03:33 PM..
20's- Met my husband, had my daughter, traveled all over country and world, worked a tv job with little depth, went to school, spent alot of time going out with friends,explored and learned
30's- Married my husband, raising my daughter, traveled all over country and world, quit my tv job, still in school, spend my time on phone with friends more than visiting,still exploring and learning
So far not too different, but my 30's are more stable.
20s for most people is such a searching a lost time for most that I hear later from them it was their worst decade. All I know, and I believe this, is that each decade is better than the last, all things being equal - good health, etc.
I hated my 20"s . I did a happy dance for my 30th birhtday, met my husband had my son at 30 and 31 having our 2nd in June when i am 36, Looking forward to my 40's etc.I am working hard to keep healthy so I will be around and active when i am 102
Well the good thing about my 20s was I was a figure/bikini/lingerie model. My 30's were okay, still felt comfortable about myself but was a mommy of 3 by then (my last and final kid was born when I was 31). I was a stay-at-home mom till my husband lost his job and we almost lost the house, so the need for me to go to work at that point was no option, as a 2nd income (he got another job) but we were still behind. And it felt GOOD to go back to work, after not being allowed to work all those years! So basically, guess you can say I had no complaints about either of those decades.
I'm hitting the end of my 30s and I feel like I'm not getting older, I'm getting better. (well, maybe getting older too......)
I'm more confident, calm, grounded, and settled. I'm more spiritual, altruistic, and happier in general than I ever was in my 20s. Each year I feel more aware and sure of myself. I hope the comments about the 40s being even better are true!!
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