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I've been dating this guy for a few weeks, and we haven't had sex or done anything sexual.
The most "sexual" thing we've done is apply sunscreen on each other.
...sometimes I just want to have sex instead of having these deep two hour conversations.
I just don't want to make the first move and be rejected..l.
You can't have it both ways ...meaning you'll have to take the risk.
You should talk to him about it when things are not hot and heavy. There could be any number of reasons. Several men I've dated in the past waited awhile till we knew each other better. I'm all for getting an early start on things, but some men have more self control than you think.
Have respect for his wishes. Practice communicating and listening. If things move forward, you'll be glad to have learned to discuss sensitive topics at the beginning.
He pulls away and goes on to do something else like changing the tv channel or actually gets up and ask if I want anything to eat. He does seem really into it but I feel like he's holding back, especially if we're sitting and I try to change our positions while we're making out, he doesn't move and there's only so much I can do. I never say/do anything though because I don't want to make it awkward/get rejected.
@funnyman, he's definitely not a virgin
Hmmmm....when he gets up to do something right after, do you notice anything? Is your making out having any effect on him that you can see? I think you need to develop a case of "Roman hands" and perhaps he'll catch on with some "Russian fingers".
What has always worked for me - grab his stuff. And not weakly, use a firm touch. If he doesn't get the message he may not be convincingly heterosexual, or truly interested in you. But you could always unbutton or unzip his pants and make direct contact. If he rebuffs you at this point then he has issues. I'd move on. If I were you, I'd make this move the next time I see him. Sexuality is way too significant a part of a relationship for me, and if he doesn't want sexual intimacy I wouldn't want him. The choice is yours though. I can't abide living with a eunuch.
If he doesn't get the message he may not be convincingly heterosexual, or truly interested in you.
If he rebuffs you at this point then he has issues. I'd move on.
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We females have ways of making men do what we want, but I want the man to come after me because he wants me, not because I made him.
Don't we really want men who will swim through shark infested waters to have us, instead of because we seduce him?
OP needs to drop this guy, for sure.
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