What will you do if your best friend hate you for you're lesbian and interested in her? (boyfriend, girlfriend)

[CoolHeat]

Do u know how many chicks go both ways? Lemme tell ya - LOTS! Don't give up yet.

[easternerDC]

But when your friendship was started she thought you were something else. You can't go back to your normal friendship, because you are not who you said you were in the beginning. She thought she was having a friendship with a male, and shared things that she may not have with another female.. especially a lesbian since she has made her feelings clear on that.

You can't go back to your normal friendship, because your "normal" friendship was a fraud.

[RoaminRed]

Originally Posted by CoolHeat

Do u know how many chicks go both ways? Lemme tell ya - LOTS! Don't give up yet.

No means no, dude. No matter what gender is asking me.

[esdiary]

Originally Posted by easternerDC

But when your friendship was started she thought you were something else. You can't go back to your normal friendship, because you are not who you said you were in the beginning. She thought she was having a friendship with a male, and shared things that she may not have with another female.. especially a lesbian since she has made her feelings clear on that.

You can't go back to your normal friendship, because your "normal" friendship was a fraud.

The fraud friendship started when we are no longer in talking term - during her avoidance stage. Before that we used to be bestest friend anyone could ever had. Do almost everything together - working, hang-out, and personal or problem sharing. We've even been tru bad times together. But everything has changed ever since she found out I'm interested in her.

[esdiary]

Originally Posted by CoolHeat

Do u know how many chicks go both ways? Lemme tell ya - LOTS! Don't give up yet.

Thanks for motivating but I know her pretty well. If she can accept me as friend, it will be good enough. No more false hope for me.

[Rance]

I can't believe you did this. You should be ashamed. Oh the humanity.

[brokencrayola]

It seems obvious she is not gay so it is a no brainer here. You lied to her, deceived her and she isn't gay, let her go and move on.

[esdiary]

Originally Posted by Rance

I can't believe you did this. You should be ashamed. Oh the humanity.

Yes. You're right indeed. I hope I can repent for wut I've done towards her and hope 1 day she'll forgive me.

[mconzemius]

I'm confused. Do you dress as a man? Do you live your life as a man? How did she not know you were a girl? Was this friendship just online?

Whatever the case is, you broke her trust. If you are lucky, she can overlook it and continue a friendship. However, trust isn't easily gained back, and I'd say she has every right to be angry and wanting to end the friendship.

In the future, be honest with others about who you are and TRUE friendships will come from that. Friendships aren't built on lies, they are built on trust.

Good luck!

[esdiary]

Originally Posted by mconzemius

I'm confused. Do you dress as a man? Do you live your life as a man? How did she not know you were a girl? Was this friendship just online?

Whatever the case is, you broke her trust. If you are lucky, she can overlook it and continue a friendship. However, trust isn't easily gained back, and I'd say she has every right to be angry and wanting to end the friendship.

In the future, be honest with others about who you are and TRUE friendships will come from that. Friendships aren't built on lies, they are built on trust.

Good luck!

Thanks mconzemius for your great advice. Really appreaciate that. Well, we used to be very best friend in reality and I just turn out to be normal lady's friend to her in person. But later she feel that they way I treat her - too good which not even a bf can do it make her feel uncomfortable. She confronted me whether I'm interested in her and I admitted as I do not want to lie. She's in the shocking state and from time to time try to stay away from me and end up we are no longer in talking term. I was in very bad depression that time and do not hope anything happen to our beautiful friendship just because I've feeling for her. Thus, I came out with this idiotic idea to disguise as guy and approach her again via online. Frankly, this was the 1st and the last worst lie I ever told her.

Indeed is a great loss in order to learn this lesson. I just miss her very much till today eventhough she no longer working in the same company as I.