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There have been times, when I was watching television when there would be a story about some nice lady who married a professional con artist and lost her life savings. I know you have seen them. Usually it is a an who does this repeatedly and victimizes "lonely" or "vulnerable" women.
When I would see these shows, I would shake my head and say, "tsk tsk, how can a grown woman be so gullible and stupid, surely she could have seen through his lies if she had wanted to". I'm sure you have said something similar.
Well, I am here to tell you that it's really just not that easy. It's really not. I "fell in love" with a man and I tell you, it blinds you and makes you crazy. No, he was not a "con artist" not in the true sense of the word, but he did take advantage of my generosity and kind spirit. And he wasn't even really very nice to me, but I loved him so much I would do anything. I would have given him my last dollar and lived on the street and eaten out of dumpsters. I tell you this love thing is not good. It is not good at all.
Fortunately, believe it or not, he wasn't a con man, and that is the only thing that saved me. He had enough integrity to feel a little guilty because I kept giving him money and he wasn't giving me anything back, just a thank you. And he would ignore me all the time and treat me like I was not important to him because HEY! I WASN'T IMPORTANT TO HIM! DUH!!!!!! But I could not tell that he didn't care for me. I was so blinded.
So, please people, when you hear about someone being conned, or cheated or taken advantage of, or even abused and mistreated, don't shake your head and think to yourself how stupid that woman is. Because if it can happen to me, it can happen to anybody. It's like a drug and when you are on it, you can't see the world clearly.
Just a thought from someone who learned a very hard and painful lesson.
It's like a drug and when you are on it, you can't see the world clearly.
Yep. I get it.
Thanks for sharing. Sorry for what you've been through.
The worst part about love is that it requires you to be vulnerable, and for someone to hurt a person who finally does allow themselves to be vulnerable really is the worst.
Has happened to me more times than I care to admit. Let's just say, I'm not letting my experiences jade me, I still take what is said at face value but I've learned to identify certain non-verbal cues that may belie the lines I'm being fed. Sometimes I gotta bust out the five inch heels 👠 👠 to wade around it.
Has happened to me more times than I care to admit. Let's just say, I'm not letting my experiences jade me, I still take what is said at face value but I've learned to identify certain non-verbal cues that may belie the lines I'm being fed. Sometimes I gotta bust out the five inch heels �� �� to wade around it.
Some people are pros at making it feel real, while many of us are pros at the wanting to believe! LOL
Here is a plan. Never let anyone know your net worth. There is no reason for men or women to flaunt wealth unless they wish to attract someone who is motivated by money.
I think you should spend some time reflecting on why you loved him so much when he "wasn't even really very nice" to you.
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