Really ugly breakup. How can I make it right? (cheating, Valentines, Latin)
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I just wanted to clarify a couple things. I was sober when I met my gf and have continued to be sober. I will remain sober for the rest of my life. When my gf and her parents told me never to contact her again, I didn't. I have not hounded with texts or made any sort of contact. To the person who asked if I was in AA, no I'm not, I'm in therapy once a week with an addiction counselor. Yes, I know I'm an alcoholic. No, I'm not a stalker.
As I said, I know how to walk away. The idea of leaving a rose on her windshield was simply to open the door to contact a little bit for her to walk through. Maybe she's having a hard time figuring out how to reconnect with me after such a dramatic end to our relationship. I don't know. It was just a thought. I'm not going to do it.
It's sort of shocking that you think breaching her private property or place of work, scoping out her car and leaving a rose and note on it is "not contacting her."
The idea of leaving a rose on her windshield was simply to open the door to contact a little bit for her to walk through. Maybe she's having a hard time figuring out how to reconnect with me after such a dramatic end to our relationship. I don't know. It was just a thought. I'm not going to do it.
She knows you want her back, and she knows how to get in touch with you. She's made it pretty clear through several means that she's not interested.
I just wanted to clarify a couple things. I was sober when I met my gf and have continued to be sober. I will remain sober for the rest of my life. When my gf and her parents told me never to contact her again, I didn't. I have not hounded with texts or made any sort of contact. To the person who asked if I was in AA, no I'm not, I'm in therapy once a week with an addiction counselor. Yes, I know I'm an alcoholic. No, I'm not a stalker.
As I said, I know how to walk away. The idea of leaving a rose on her windshield was simply to open the door to contact a little bit for her to walk through. Maybe she's having a hard time figuring out how to reconnect with me after such a dramatic end to our relationship. I don't know. It was just a thought. I'm not going to do it.
Because she loves me and we had something really special. We were talking about a future together, marriage, kids, the whole deal. We had met each others families, spent the holidays together. It was real. I made a terrible mistake under serious emotional distress. I'm just wondering if what we had is enough to overcome my terrible mistake. I'm hoping she just needs time for the anger to go away so that she can forgive me.
I'm giving her space. I haven't contacted her since she told me to leave her alone. I'm just sad, that's all.
Because she loves me and we had something really special. We were talking about a future together, marriage, kids, the whole deal. We had met each others families, spent the holidays together. It was real. I made a terrible mistake under serious emotional distress. I'm just wondering if what we had is enough to overcome my terrible mistake. I'm hoping she just needs time for the anger to go away so that she can forgive me.
I'm giving her space. I haven't contacted her since she told me to leave her alone. I'm just sad, that's all.
Sorry, dude.
It was real. But that was before you acted poorly.
Haven't you just ended a marriage? And already were ready for a new one?
For next time, I advise you to take it a bit more easy and slow.
It was real. But that was before you acted poorly.
Haven't you just ended a marriage? And already were ready for a new one?
For next time, I advise you to take it a bit more easy and slow.
Thanks for the advice. Yeah, I've really beaten myself up over this. She did not deserve to be hurt like that. I know I hurt her and I feel terrible about it. On top of that, I'm distraught over losing her and what we had. Breakups really suck, but I know I have to let go and move on. I know it, I just have to do it.
Thanks for the advice. Yeah, I've really beaten myself up over this. She did not deserve to be hurt like that. I know I hurt her and I feel terrible about it. On top of that, I'm distraught over losing her and what we had. Breakups really suck, but I know I have to let go and move on. I know it, I just have to do it.
The best thing you can do for yourself and her is to just have zero contact with her at all and try and keep yourself occupied with other things be it hobbies, work, etc. This will allow you to heal faster.
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