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I am currently thinking about relocating from the Northeast to CA.
It might not hurt. The weather is certainly more conducive to getting out and about outside of your shell. Walking, mingling and being available to others might just do wonders for you, your health and outlook and your dating life. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
OP, I just looked at your profile picture, and you are cute as can be...a very pretty girl.
Let me steal a quote from Greg Berendt, author of "He's just not that into you"..."Don't waste the pretty"...move to the west coast, get outside (it's easy to do once you are out there in CA), and force yourself to start embracing life. Also, I would encourage you to try online dating because it is a great way to start meeting people...just be sure that when you get together with a date in person that you meet in a safe and very public place and let someone, even if it's just a neighbor you hardly know, let someone know where you are going and who you are meeting.
You are too adorable to waste away with no relationship in your life...and if you're bi-curious, try dating both men and women and see which feels right to you.
It's not the norm, hence it is abnormal, but abnormal has a nasty tone to it, perhaps view it as going down a less traveled path???
I think as others have mentioned the OP has to get herself out there, it's far to easy for certain people to get wrapped into their own little worlds and it become too easy to slip into not doing anything.
I certainly hope you will follow up with the OP and get to know one another.
Even though this is not a matchmaking site, there are so many people here with dating issues in common, that I often wonder why they don't join forces more often. Seems the forum world is a better way of meeting people than online dating is. Less pressure, you know.
There are couples who have met from talking on City-data forums. Those who then were married.....
Well, in the strictness sense of the word you my dear ARE abnormal, in that your having approached middle age with never having sex is not the norm. Hence abnormal. But not I don't think abnormal as in freakish or anything.
If I may be so bold, I noticed you said you would describe yourself as straight. To me, a strictly and purely straight person, say, like me, would never say I describe myself as heterosexual. I and I think mostly all, would say I'm straight. You sort of qualified it, see? And a gay person would also probably just say I'm Gay.
My two cents? You're at the least bi curious if not gay and have been repressing it. You need to embrace it. It's 2017. Life is too short to spend it in a state of unsatisfying repression.
I could be way off base. If I offended you I'm sorry, but I'm just relaying the vibe I picked up very quickly and strongly from your post. Thanks.
I'm definitely attracted to men, but because I've led an asexual lifestyle and haven't really connected with a man, I would be open to having a romantic relationship with a woman, as long as it did not involve sex.
It's not the norm, hence it is abnormal, but abnormal has a nasty tone to it, perhaps view it as going down a less traveled path???
I think as others have mentioned the OP has to get herself out there, it's far to easy for certain people to get wrapped into their own little worlds and it become too easy to slip into not doing anything.
Good luck OP.
I do believe that I'm abnormal with respect to formulating social relationships. I have never been good at connecting with people. For the most part, I live in my own world.
OP, I just looked at your profile picture, and you are cute as can be...a very pretty girl.
Let me steal a quote from Greg Berendt, author of "He's just not that into you"..."Don't waste the pretty"...move to the west coast, get outside (it's easy to do once you are out there in CA), and force yourself to start embracing life. Also, I would encourage you to try online dating because it is a great way to start meeting people...just be sure that when you get together with a date in person that you meet in a safe and very public place and let someone, even if it's just a neighbor you hardly know, let someone know where you are going and who you are meeting.
You are too adorable to waste away with no relationship in your life...and if you're bi-curious, try dating both men and women and see which feels right to you.
Best of luck to you!
Thank you for your kind words. My main issue is, I'm very socially awkward, which directly plays a role in my decision not to engage with people offline, unless required.
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