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Old 03-04-2008, 12:02 AM
 
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Default How do you know if they're the one?

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How do you know if they're the one?
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Old 03-04-2008, 04:13 AM
 
Location: Oxford, England
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You just know.

If you can't bear to be parted from them, if the idea of them dying is just too much to even contemplate. If you would take a bullet for them. If you Love them so much you would sacrifice your own happiness for theirs even if it would destroy you inside.

If you light up when they come into the room, if you stop seeing anyone else ( in a sexual way). If they are all you need to be truly happy. If you would be willing to follow them to the ends of the earth leaving your family, friends behind you just to be with them.

If your Life is better just for knowing them. If they make you a better person.

You just know.
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Old 03-04-2008, 08:31 AM
 
Location: Who knows
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You just know.
I agree with Mooseketter...you just know. In my single days, I really never believed when couples would describe how they just knew they had found a partner for a lifetime...and that when you weren't looking, your other half would find you. But after the first time my husband kissed me, I just knew...this was it. I found him. Hubby and I had been friends for six months before the day we hung out, just as friends, and it came out he liked me...then I realized I liked him...the rest is history.
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Old 03-04-2008, 08:48 AM
 
Location: friendswood texas
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I will second that, if you have to ask the question then the person isn't the one. Hubby and I knew on the first date. We went to dinner and ended up talking about everything under the sun for like 5 hours in the restaurant. (Bet the waitress wasn't happy) Then we had our first kiss and it was fireworks, drum roll, earth moving, you name it, it just was it. He was the one. My other half, what made me complete.

It's something you can't really put into words, you will know it when you feel it.
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Old 03-04-2008, 09:25 AM
 
Location: Marietta, GA
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How do you know if they're the one?
IMHO, you don't! Sometimes you think you found "The One" because you can't stop thinking about them, you can't wait to see them again, you long to hear their voice, etc, etc. Sometimes it is love, sometimes it is addiction.

I think it is as possible to become addicted to a relationship as it is to become addicted to drugs or alcohol. If you feel like you can't live without them that is bad. If you feel like you can live without them but you can live a more content life with them then that is a healthier relationship.
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Old 03-04-2008, 09:53 AM
 
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And then You wake up and Realize you were WRONG
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You just know.

If you can't bear to be parted from them, if the idea of them dying is just too much to even contemplate. If you would take a bullet for them. If you Love them so much you would sacrifice your own happiness for theirs even if it would destroy you inside.

If you light up when they come into the room, if you stop seeing anyone else ( in a sexual way). If they are all you need to be truly happy. If you would be willing to follow them to the ends of the earth leaving your family, friends behind you just to be with them.

If your Life is better just for knowing them. If they make you a better person.

You just know.
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Old 03-04-2008, 10:14 AM
 
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So..

How do you know if they're the one?
if you have to ask, then, they are not...
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Old 03-04-2008, 10:19 AM
 
Location: Land of 10000 Lakes + some
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You just know.

If you can't bear to be parted from them, if the idea of them dying is just too much to even contemplate. If you would take a bullet for them. If you Love them so much you would sacrifice your own happiness for theirs even if it would destroy you inside.

If you light up when they come into the room, if you stop seeing anyone else ( in a sexual way). If they are all you need to be truly happy. If you would be willing to follow them to the ends of the earth leaving your family, friends behind you just to be with them.

If your Life is better just for knowing them. If they make you a better person.

You just know.
Very well said, Moose. Heck, this is the way I feel about my granddaughter, though I know what the poster meant
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Old 03-04-2008, 10:39 AM
 
Location: Bay Area
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There is no such thing as "the one".

There are many people out there for us. Most people have felt they have found "the one" more than once in their lives. What does that say? That they were wrong then but right now?

There is someone there for us at different stages of our lives. Maybe that someone will last during several stages, or more or less. That does not make them more important.

What about the widow who spends 40 years married to her beloved husband only to have him pass away. She then meets someone else in her 70's. Who is really the one?

Appreciate what you have without worrying about the labels and other issues. Your heart has room for many.
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Old 03-04-2008, 10:41 AM
 
Location: Land of 10000 Lakes + some
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There can be several "the ones" but at different times.
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