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I keep seeing the issue about payment coming up. Someone correct me if I'm wrong, but I've never been to or worked at a restaurant that would charge you for a meal that you sent back. The one exceptIon might be Chinese or other ethnic run eateries that have a different culture. Restaurants operate under "the customer is always right". Of course it's not always true, but establishments would rather eat the cost of one meal then lose repeat business. My managers would usually visit any table that had a send back just to make sure the patrons were satisfied and knew their complaint mattered. It's called the service industry for a reason. You get a meal but a little lip service goes a long way in that environment.
All this she could of offered to pay or he should of just ate the cost of the second meal is moot because there would not be a charge for the returned meal.
After reading the OP' s further explanations. I'm getting the idea that by the time you knew she was unhappy it was probably beyond the practical time for her to reorder and still be able to eat your meals together. So I can understand your hesitancy to push the replacement issue. Wether the OP is chivalrous or not ,the onus was on the date to fix the situation. I wouldn't of been too happy about paying for an uneaten meal myself. She was rude to you as the host and I can't imagine acting that high maintenance on a date.
Still, you can order fries - who doesn't like fries?
If she knew in advance she should have offered an alternative.
I'm not sure why the communication is so non-existent here. For the most part, I feel it falls on her.
A lot of women don't. Fattening. Grease and starch. Mmmm, yummy.
Yes, as previously noted, IF she knew in advance, she should have spoken up. She doesn't seem to be assertive or communicative in general. Still, when faced with a date like that, the host should rise to the occasion and make an effort to see that the guest is having a good time, IMO. Though it can be hard to muster the energy for that, if someone's being very passive, or a wet blanket.
Probably there's no right answer to this. The date bombed, it happens.
I keep seeing the issue about payment coming up. Someone correct me if I'm wrong, but I've never been to or worked at a restaurant that would charge you for a meal that you sent back. The one exceptIon might be Chinese or other ethnic run eateries that have a different culture. Restaurants operate under "the customer is always right". Of course it's not always true, but establishments would rather eat the cost of one meal then lose repeat business. My managers would usually visit any table that had a send back just to make sure the patrons were satisfied and knew their complaint mattered. It's called the service industry for a reason. You get a meal but a little lip service goes a long way in that environment.
All this she could of offered to pay or he should of just ate the cost of the second meal is moot because there would not be a charge for the returned meal.
After reading the OP' s further explanations. I'm getting the idea that by the time you knew she was unhappy it was probably beyond the practical time for her to reorder and still be able to eat your meals together. So I can understand your hesitancy to push the replacement issue. Wether the OP is chivalrous or not ,the onus was on the date to fix the situation. I wouldn't of been too happy about paying for an uneaten meal myself. She was rude to you as the host and I can't imagine acting that high maintenance on a date.
This is the truth. Customers at restaurants send back food all the time. It's just food... Smart restaurant owners would never make a customer pay for a meal he sent back...that's just bad business.
While it's not common for me to send back food, I just did over the weekend. Just took it up to the counter and told them it was inedible. It was genuinely horrible, and my husband came right up once he tried his. No rudeness. The gave us our money back, and gave us a free 2nd order for us both.
When I order a burger I am very clear on what comes on it, and whether I need to change any of those items.
I think Ruth is right, the whole date was just a bust.
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The server did ask and she said all was fine It wasn't until much later that I discovered that she had not made any progress on her food. She did not even mention what was wrong until I started probing into why she isn't eating her food and even then she did not give any clear explanations if she merely did not care for the food and she would eat it anyway or if she could not eat it.
Sounds like she was nervous, and then embarrassed by her mistake.
She sounds horrible, OP. You dodged a bullet there! {sarcasm}
From the title of this thread, I thought it was going to be about your date eating half her meal and you wondering if it would be tacky to eat the rest for her. Guess I've been here too long.
In your case, I would have just sent it back and asked for the same thing without the part she didn't like. Easy fix.
From the title of this thread, I thought it was going to be about your date eating half her meal and you wondering if it would be tacky to eat the rest for her.
From the title of this thread, I thought it was going to be about your date eating half her meal and you wondering if it would be tacky to eat the rest for her. Guess I've been here too long.
In your case, I would have just sent it back and asked for the same thing without the part she didn't like. Easy fix.
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
It takes 7 pages for someone to think of this no-brainer. OP, remember this, in case it ever happens again.
Agreed. I think it would be appropriate for the OP to make the request, also.
Only thing I'd add is that I'm not sure this means the date is a picky eater. I'm a picky eater, and I always make sure what's on a sandwich I'm ordering and if I have any doubt I ask for it on the side. I don't think I've been surprised since 1988.
She has the same
She could have done a bunch of stuff to fix the situation.
It's possible that she didn't see it as a situation to be fixed, but more as "Eh, well, picked a dud, it happens." She may or may not have seen it as a big deal. Per the OP, she didn't complain. Maybe it was NBD.
However, the fact that it was apparently a HUGE deal to the poster indicates that it probably just wasn't a good date. If he'd found her awesome, I doubt it would have been a big deal.
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It wasn't until much later that I discovered that she had not made any progress on her food. She did not even mention what was wrong until I started probing into why she isn't eating her food and even then she did not give any clear explanations if she merely did not care for the food and she would eat it anyway or if she could not eat it. 
{sarcasm}
