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Some women will play the "plausible deniability" game.
For instance, one girl bumped into me repeatedly: she walked backwards into me 3X from about 6 feet away. I didn't react and she finally left.
She never turned to face me, never said anything, but still tried over and over to initiate.
Very pretty lady, 6 feet tall, thin blonde, etc.
It's usually done with plausible deniability, which is okay, but it's usually done in a context of 'i'm giving you the chance to chat me up' so you've still got to put the work in and risk rejection because they've got the plausible deniability to avoid any rejection and are projecting that onto you.
If a man goes over to a woman he can't just stand there, he's got to get her engaged and chat her up if he wants to get anywhere.
Hmmm.if and thats a big if, i go to a bar or niteclub i may not get approached at all or i might get approached several times. I never have anyone accidentally fall into me or touch me. Sounds like a lot of BS. More than likely i get the old "oh my god how tall are you" or a comment avout being the tallest guy in the place. A lot of times i get the i love your voice it is deep and sexy.
Summertime if i hang out at the Purple Moose in OC Md, that place would be the exception and i get approached multiple times a night. It all depends on circumstances and how approachable you are i think. My women friends often send women my way at the lake in the summer. I don't think there is a specific number for me.
I agree. In my humble opinion, when a woman approaches me....she will ask me out/dance/etc. Not bump into me.
I talk to women all the time, every store I go into I'll talk to some woman. I'm not approaching them, they come talk to me and I don't see it as an "approach".
But I will add, I don't see it when a woman flirts with me. My ex told me many times "she was flirting with you." I don't get it, it's just talk and I'm with someone...I didn't think women did that, nor do I think they do.
When I am in Asia its quite often. Being a foreigner naturally makes you stand out and speaking their language is a bonus. It's quite nice .
When I am in western countries, rarely. Either that or they will try to make me take action. For example, in the conversation I would be asked how long will I be staying there, if I am enjoying my stay, etc. Only to later find out they wanted me to “read their mind” and know they wanted to go out and therefore I was supposed to ask them out. I don’t get it, why not simply ask me out like what I have experienced in Asia?
The last girl I dated initiated with me. She was an ex of an old friend of mine. haven't seen her in over a decade. She said she was leaving for the night, we mutually agreed to exchange numbers, and then she kissed me.
Doesn't happen often, but it does from time to time.
If I go out to a popular bar or nightclub on weekends, it's generally 4-6X a night sometimes more.
Usually, it's very subtle: a girl will try to grab me by the hand, or bump into me "accidentally" or "fall" into me, etc.
What is your experience?
I haven't gone to a night club in a few months but the last time I went to a club, someone grabbed me and kissed me. That same night, someone grabbed my butt. I think that was more than enough lol.
Wow, this forum is prolific! The number of responses is welcome and encouraging but a bit overwhelming as well.
One thing I can add is: don't underestimate the importance of women staring. Staring is as strong a sign of interest as physical or verbal approaching.
I agree. In my humble opinion, when a woman approaches me....she will ask me out/dance/etc. Not bump into me.
I talk to women all the time, every store I go into I'll talk to some woman. I'm not approaching them, they come talk to me and I don't see it as an "approach".
But I will add, I don't see it when a woman flirts with me. My ex told me many times "she was flirting with you." I don't get it, it's just talk and I'm with someone...I didn't think women did that, nor do I think they do.
But, been wrong before...obviously. lol
I'm talking about cold approaches. Women who don't know you, and may never have seen you before. You don't have friends in common.
Wow, this forum is prolific! The number of responses is welcome and encouraging but a bit overwhelming as well.
One thing I can add is: don't underestimate the importance of women staring. Staring is as strong a sign of interest as physical or verbal approaching.
Definitely good point.
Another cue is if she keeps looking your way (in my experience).
But where I am at, women are more assertive as well.
When I am in Asia its quite often. Being a foreigner naturally makes you stand out and speaking their language is a bonus. It's quite nice .
When I am in western countries, rarely. Either that or they will try to make me take action. For example, in the conversation I would be asked how long will I be staying there, if I am enjoying my stay, etc. Only to later find out they wanted me to “read their mind” and know they wanted to go out and therefore I was supposed to ask them out. I don’t get it, why not simply ask me out like what I have experienced in Asia?
They want you to risk the rejection, not them.
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