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I met my bf around 2 years ago, he is Albanian, younger than me with 2 years and proud to be an Albanian with his traditions.
After 6 months I realised he is very distant with me ( he had3 months in his country and we was just chatting no phone call or video call) so i decided to break his fb account to see what is hiding..of course i found he was speaking with an albanian girl they seemed to be togheter..i* asked him explanations and because of love I forgived him..2 months later I decided to go back in germany and sick of all his bad behaviour , offends without any reason ..I met another boy and coincidence was a friend of him...it looked unbelievable...it sawed pictures in his phone with my bf...i found my bf spoked very bad about me in his face.hurted me very much the fact I was asking him everyday when can I go to him and he was answering me "in a sunny day " while he was in germany..after 1 week we spoked again.When I was in his country I catched him chatting with girls...his answer :"you was sleeping and I got bored.is nothing bad to speak with others..is just a chat" .after 2 months again I found he is speaking with others.what can I do ? He don't understand is not normal to speak with others..because of my mistake he had acces to all my accounts ( fb, samsung account, phone when we was togheter) but he never gaved me nothing and was accepting to break up woth me than to give me his accounts.he tell me are just bull****s and i am a ***** which dont believe him. I understood is younger than me , I understood he don't want nothing serious ( I mean a marriage or to live togheter) I have 26 years..please give me advices I am desperate.
I met my bf around 2 years ago, he is Albanian, younger than me with 2 years and proud to be an Albanian with his traditions.
After 6 months I realised he is very distant with me ( he had3 months in his country and we was just chatting no phone call or video call) so i decided to break his fb account to see what is hiding..of course i found he was speaking with an albanian girl they seemed to be togheter..i* asked him explanations and because of love I forgived him..2 months later I decided to go back in germany and sick of all his bad behaviour , offends without any reason ..I met another boy and coincidence was a friend of him...it looked unbelievable...it sawed pictures in his phone with my bf...i found my bf spoked very bad about me in his face.hurted me very much the fact I was asking him everyday when can I go to him and he was answering me "in a sunny day " while he was in germany..after 1 week we spoked again.When I was in his country I catched him chatting with girls...his answer :"you was sleeping and I got bored.is nothing bad to speak with others..is just a chat" .after 2 months again I found he is speaking with others.what can I do ? He don't understand is not normal to speak with others..because of my mistake he had acces to all my accounts ( fb, samsung account, phone when we was togheter) but he never gaved me nothing and was accepting to break up woth me than to give me his accounts.he tell me are just bull****s and i am a ***** which dont believe him. I understood is younger than me , I understood he don't want nothing serious ( I mean a marriage or to live togheter) I have 26 years..please give me advices I am desperate.
Yes there may be a cultural aspect to his behavior.
Who cares if it's cultural, or if it's simply his personality, his character? He's not a good bf, it should be clear at this point. He may not even be interested in you. Find a better bf. There are so many guys out there, why spend any more time worrying about this one?
You might want to do just a little bit of reading about the Albanian culture!
Gender Roles and Statuses
The Relative Status of Women and Men. Albania is a patriarchal society based on male predominance. Women are accorded subordinate roles. The communist Party of Labor did much to emancipate women during a revolutionary campaign in the late 1960s and early 1970s, but many of the gains of that social revolution have been reversed since the introduction of democracy and a free market economy. Old traditions have revived, and despite legal equality and acceptance in the workforce, women have much less representation in public life than they did under the former regime.
Even if your particular man seems to be a 'nice guy' when not in or communicating with those of his Albanian culture, and even if he isn't muslim (you don't mention it but that may compound any issues as well), I think I would be leery of dating/living with/committing to an Albanian man given how he might have been raised to see women. I would certainly see what you, OP, have described as a reason to get out of that relationship IMMEDIATELY.
I met my bf around 2 years ago, he is Albanian, younger than me with 2 years and proud to be an Albanian with his traditions.
After 6 months I realised he is very distant with me ( he had3 months in his country and we was just chatting no phone call or video call) so i decided to break his fb account to see what is hiding..of course i found he was speaking with an albanian girl they seemed to be togheter..i* asked him explanations and because of love I forgived him..2 months later I decided to go back in germany and sick of all his bad behaviour , offends without any reason ..I met another boy and coincidence was a friend of him...it looked unbelievable...it sawed pictures in his phone with my bf...i found my bf spoked very bad about me in his face.hurted me very much the fact I was asking him everyday when can I go to him and he was answering me "in a sunny day " while he was in germany..after 1 week we spoked again.When I was in his country I catched him chatting with girls...his answer :"you was sleeping and I got bored.is nothing bad to speak with others..is just a chat" .after 2 months again I found he is speaking with others.what can I do ? He don't understand is not normal to speak with others..because of my mistake he had acces to all my accounts ( fb, samsung account, phone when we was togheter) but he never gaved me nothing and was accepting to break up woth me than to give me his accounts.he tell me are just bull****s and i am a ***** which dont believe him. I understood is younger than me , I understood he don't want nothing serious ( I mean a marriage or to live togheter) I have 26 years..please give me advices I am desperate.
He does not seem to value or respect you. There is no point keep this relationship.
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