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we've been together for 2 years and I'm 25 and she's 27.
so... where do I start. My girlfriend has problems in managing anger. When we're having a discussion, most of the time she'll just explode by starting to scream, throwing things around the house, pull her hairs and so on (sometimes she even tried to hit me).
Today something even worst happened. We were not having a discussion about anything, but she was just asking for my opinion on an assignment she needs to do for uni. We already discussed this, so I just said my opinion once again.
For some reasons, this time she found my opinion to be different from the one I gave her a few days ago (which is not true, as she later understood) and she simply started to panic.
She starts to scream, pull her hairs, saying 'you said another thing the other day!!!!', then she go into the kitchen, she grabs a fork and she throw it to the wall. Then she pick it up and she throw it again.
She later calmed down and started to cry, saying she's sorry etc etc (as she always does).
I'm honestly scared and I don't know what to do. Maybe she has a nervous breakdown or something, but she always behaves like this.
Escalating. She always went mad because of something from time to time, but right now there are really only a few things that would not 'irritate' her.
It's abusive behavior. You can either walk away for good, since why would you want to be in a relationship with a person who scares you? Or, if she starts rampaging tell her that you're going to leave until she's calmed down enough to discuss this like adults, and get out of there.
You mentioned uni. Could it be she's feeling a lot of pressure from her classes?
It's clear that you care about her...can you have a sit down talk with her, and explain your concern, and maybe help her find a counseling service for her?
You mentioned uni. Could it be she's feeling a lot of pressure from her classes?
Yeah, she's stressed about uni, but it's beyond unbelievable the way she's reacting. Today it's because of uni, what will it be tomorrow?
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Originally Posted by Sassybluesy
can you have a sit down talk with her, and explain your concern, and maybe help her find a counseling service for her?
She promised she'll never do it again (I don't believe her). Other than that, I've tried to say the name 'counselling' and she just freaked out saying that 'I don't want to stay with a person that thinks I'm crazy' and 'you're not going to lock me down in a mental hospital'.
Well...
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