How hard will it be to find a girl with the same Beliefs (serious question) (girlfriend, marriages)
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well, it doesn't sound like there's much of a relationship to have, then. I'm not talking about the marriage and kids, because I never particularly wanted that either (more so the kids), and there are plenty of people that are together for a long time, that don't get married. I think it's more the living together thing, because if you're seeing someone, usually, you naturally spend more and more time together (or break-up, if you don't enjoy spending that much time together), and eventually move in together. so it doesn't seem like there would be much of a relationship if youNEVER live together, but maybe I'm wrong. there could be other people out there who want their space and independence and all that...perhaps someone that lives further away, where it wouldn't be as possible to see each other that often.
that is a good point, and I see how it can be an issue. but I am not against sleepovers and spending weekends and vacations together. I just don't want to live together full time. the girl that I mentioned in my first post that I dated for 6 months lived in another state, and when she would visit we spent plenty of time together. I cant say its easier as I haven't been involved with someone who lives in my state.
I personally subscribe to "don't ask don't tell" when it comes to the topic but most will volunteer their views on the subject without being prompted. If a woman is Gaga for marriage and kids, I find it's plenty obvious and I just step away discreetly.
that's true. and that's what the first few dates are for, finding out if you even like each other, are compatible, etc. and this is where you can talk about that stuff. I dated a guy that asked if I wanted kids on the first date. lol. but I guess it's good to find out where the other person is.
yes, it would. people are more open these days, and that's one of the good things about online dating, you can look for someone that fits with your beliefs and other things. so you should try that. I've seen plenty of profiles where they people say they don't want kids, or whatever they do or don't want. which is good, as it saves people time and energy, that are incompatible. being honest and upfront is always best.
I would agree with this, but many people who come here seem determined that online dating is something horrible. So I don't even go there anymore. But the huge advantage is that you can state what you want upfront, and hundreds of people will see your profile and some will be looking for the same thing.
I personally subscribe to "don't ask don't tell" when it comes to the topic but most will volunteer their views on the subject without being prompted. If a woman is Gaga for marriage and kids, I find it's plenty obvious and I just step away discreetly.
If I am on a date with a girl and she mentions wanting kids and marriage (which they almost always do) in my head I already know there wont be a date number 2 lol, waste of time.
You want what you want. Your dating pool is going to be shallow. Your options seem to be to either swim in the shallow side or not date.
Oh Okay, thank you for clarifying. I will keep trying as best I can, but I cant change how I feel, I have to be true to myself and I cant compromise on these beliefs. In the back of my head I have made peace with the idea, that I may end up alone, but that wont stop me from making attempts.
What could work perfectly is what I call an I-95 romance. Two people who live in different metro areas that are decently accessible (say D.C. to NYC, Baltimore to Hartford CT) date on the weekends but during the week have their own life for the most part. I've heard some of these go on for years. I'd definitely consider that option with a woman who lived within 3 hours of me.
yes, that sort of appealed to me to, the distance...knowing I couldn't run into them, or them wanting to just pop over, or get together at the last minute...seemed like there would be less stress, worrying about what I looked like or whatever, or always being 'ready'...
yes, it would. people are more open these days, and that's one of the good things about online dating, you can look for someone that fits with your beliefs and other things. so you should try that. I've seen plenty of profiles where they people say they don't want kids, or whatever they do or don't want. which is good, as it saves people time and energy, that are incompatible. being honest and upfront is always best.
I have never considered online dating, but you make a good point it makes it easier to weed out what you don't want. thanks for the suggestion!.
I would agree with this, but many people who come here seem determined that online dating is something horrible. So I don't even go there anymore. But the huge advantage is that you can state what you want upfront, and hundreds of people will see your profile and some will be looking for the same thing.
yes, and you can have access to tons of people that you wouldn't normally meet, like in other areas, which as has been mentioned, may want a long-distance relationship.
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lol. but I guess it's good to find out where the other person is.
