Men, do you mind her wearing jewelry given by exes? (jealous, emotionally)
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Why not just, "They were gifts from an old friend."
I can't really imagine what guy would ask where his gf got a non-engagement-style ring she wore anyway.
I would never ask and don't normally pay too much attention to jewelry. But I can imagine if I am for example kissing her hand or something similar I might pay attention to a pretty ring. I would never ask who bought it of course but I might admire it and maybe ask her where it was made, how old it is, etc... This happened once or twice and usually women told me how they got it. I cam imagine that had they said that their EX bought it, it would've been awkward. Probable better to say that it was a gift from a good friend...
I would not dump a guy because he isn't thrilled that I wear an exes ring.
It's not an ex's ring.
It's your ring.
And any meaning is purely assigned by you.
Not by your ex.
And not by whatever guy comes next.
I mean, my ex and I got a dog together and raised it for 4 years together. Should I throw away the dog not to offend my wife?
Should she have thrown away her ex's dogs that she kept by she knew her ex wouldn't take care of them?
How about these unique glasses that my ex got me while she stayed in Germany for a year? Or the custom pottery with my name on it? Or this funny shirt she had made for me that's super funny? My rollerblades?
It's not an ex's ring.
It's your ring.
And any meaning is purely assigned by you.
Not by your ex.
And not by whatever guy comes next.
I mean, my ex and I got a dog together and raised it for 4 years together. Should I throw away the dog not to offend my wife?
Should she have thrown away her ex's dogs that she kept by she knew her ex wouldn't take care of them?
How about these unique glasses that my ex got me while she stayed in Germany for a year? Or the custom pottery with my name on it? Or this funny shirt she had made for me that's super funny? My rollerblades?
Throw it all away! No one existed before you!
Sorry. Too lame. Find a more mature guy.
Good point.
Again, this is highly hypothetical. It hasn't really happened (yet) that he asks.
Remember on forums you get a lot of people who say they are "free" and " okay" with things they might not actually be OK with it it happened to them.
Early on early dates, sure no guy is gonna worry about it... but he will grow to hate that piece of jewelry!
I might be assuming many people are like me, but if I think this way and Dissenter does, there's a good chance we're not the only two. Just putting that out there.
You two aren't the only ones who think that way because I feel the same way. I'd be weirded out by it and think she's not over the guy and clinging to the past. I don't want to be reminded of your exes or see any of the reminders of them. Basically, I'd stop seeing a woman because of this. I know I'm gonna hear you're insecure blah blah blah I don't care. I will happily wear that label. I am tired of playing second fiddle to a woman's ex boyfriend or ex husband.
It's not an ex's ring.
It's your ring.
And any meaning is purely assigned by you.
Not by your ex.
And not by whatever guy comes next.
I mean, my ex and I got a dog together and raised it for 4 years together. Should I throw away the dog not to offend my wife?
Should she have thrown away her ex's dogs that she kept by she knew her ex wouldn't take care of them?
How about these unique glasses that my ex got me while she stayed in Germany for a year? Or the custom pottery with my name on it? Or this funny shirt she had made for me that's super funny? My rollerblades?
In the almost two years I've been dating my boyfriend he's never once asked me where I got any jewelry I wear. I can't remember any other exes asking either.
Funny thing though, I know that the watch my boyfriend wears was given to him by his ex-wife. After his divorce no less! She won it as a door prize and it's a pretty nice men's watch. I really don't care. It's just a watch.
Remember on forums you get a lot of people who say they are "free" and " okay" with things they might not actually be OK with it it happened to them.
Early on early dates, sure no guy is gonna worry about it... but he will grow to hate that piece of jewelry!
I might be assuming many people are like me, but if I think this way and Dissenter does, there's a good chance we're not the only two. Just putting that out there.
I was dripping in David Yurman jewelry and some other nice pieces from my ex and sold it when we got divorced.
It just had a weird energy to it and I felt weird wearing it.
I completely get why it would bother a guy to have his gf wearing gifts from an ex.
I cannot imagine ever demanding a guy buy me anything.
Does that actually work for you?
Yes all the time. My last boyfriend disliked I wore a diamond necklace from an ex. He bought me almost the same one as a replacement. I thought it was silly, but whatever. I now have two.
How would a new guy even know? People generally don't ask where every piece of jewelry came from , that's weird. Who interrogates someone about their jewelry?
And many women these days can afford to buy their own jewelry, even expensive-looking pieces (even some of those go on sale). Also, unless it's an engagement ring, most women don't wear expensive jewelry as an everyday thing; they wear that for special occasions.
I wear diamonds every day, even with jeans.
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