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Oh that's fine. We can make it a movie night; watch each others video's
My point is, that we shouldn't dismiss other peoples jealousy. We all get jealous, even over the most silliest things; because we're only human.
That is true but whose responsibility is it to resolve those feelings? At what point is someone looking for things to get worked up about, assigning their own thoughts and feelings onto others?
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Oh my Lord! Insecure much? I have furniture that an ex bought me. Should I get rid of that too?? LOL. I'd wear the jewelry and enjoy it. The new guy doesn't need to know where it came from. It's YOURS.
The furniture has a more practical use than a ring. The ring obviously means something if you put it on everyday knowing it comes from a former lover. The couch is nowhere near as intimate to a person.
The furniture has a more practical use than a ring. The ring obviously means something if you put it on everyday knowing it comes from a former lover. The couch is nowhere near as intimate to a person.
Could it possibly mean that the gal just likes the ring?
I mean, that's what OP has said. Do you not believe her?
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Could it possibly mean that the gal just likes the ring?
I mean, that's what OP has said. Do you not believe her?
Look I just find it suspicious that a person would want to keep and display an intimate gift like a ring from an ex. That's all. I could never display anything that intimate from someone I wanted nothing to do with anymore.
Look I just find it suspicious that a person would want to keep and display an intimate gift like a ring from an ex. That's all. I could never display anything that intimate from someone I wanted nothing to do with anymore.
Intimacy is in the eye of the beholder, apparently.
Listen, I'm really not trying to give you a hard time on this- just basically trying to say that your feelings on this are just that, your feelings.
So I have two wonderful, very expensive rings. Gifts from an ex bf.
I really don't want to pawn it. They are very pretty. Not engagement rings or anything. I don't need to give them back, they are mine. I wear them every day.
Guys, if you have a date with a woman or start dating somebody who wears rings - do you aks where they come from? Do you care if they are given to her by an ex?
They are just rings ... however, I don't want to rub into the new guys face that the ex gave me a $$$$$$ ring. Doesn't seem fair. So I will take them off soon but it will really get sad putting them into a box and storing them.
What's your opinion?
My wife still sometimes wears a necklace given to her by her ex-fiance. It's not for sentimental value. She just likes it.
The way I see it, she broke up with him, then fell in love with me. Why should I care where she got a necklace before she ever met me?
To me, if you're really all that concerned about it, you need to take stock in your own insecurity.
That is true but whose responsibility is it to resolve those feelings? At what point is someone looking for things to get worked up about, assigning their own thoughts and feelings onto others?
Of course, its their responsibility. I'm just advocating a little understanding when getting to know someone. Some people are outrageously jealous and some people (like myself) could care less about woman having her ex's jewlery on or her ex's name tattooed on her chest so every time I have sex with her...BAM! its right in my face, Lol.
. The ring obviously means something if you put it on everyday knowing it comes from a former lover. .
Only in your head, my friend.
Only in your head.
Stop trying to assign motivation to other people's actions.
You'll live longer.
p.s. My prize possession that an ex gave me (and the same ex gave me ring, too) IS NOT A RING. I don't know where you have gotten this idea that all rings have special meaning.
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