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Old 03-23-2017, 05:14 AM
 
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Ive known this girl since we were children, but started dating her again for the last 3 years. My problem was she was living with me and she would stay out to 3 oclock when she did hang with her friends, which was about every 3 months. So I would put her out and hook back up 4 or 5 days later and tell her not to do it again......she just kept messing up doing it again and again....now she doesnt do it anymore....shes in by 10 oclock now. a year ago i caught her sneaking texting her daughters father from her daughters phone asking where a party was at and that she was gonna step out. and i put her out for 2 weeks before I let her back home. My problem is she is best friends with 4 of my cousins that I barely even know. She grew up with them on the other side of town. The problem is, is that she wont let me get close to any of her family or friends. Everytime we argue she would go and tell them a whole lot of things that I said. I asked her why would You do that because if you want to marry me imma have to get close to your circle, or at least be civil with. But calling them telling them unneccessary stuff is un called for. Almost like she purposely want them to hate me. She never bring me around her family...She dont even deal with her family and they known me since childhood. She bring her friends around to say hi and then leave. 2 weeks ago I kicked her out for a week for not waking me up telling me she was leaving. I woke up not knowing if she was dead or not and it pissed me off. It seems like every 3 months she F. up.....What you think.
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Old 03-23-2017, 05:25 AM
 
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You assume she wants to marry you.....
You might just be the safe dependable guy she needs but doesn't want to be with
She's at the stage where she likes to party and you are Mr Backup.

You keep going back and forth and she keeps using you and u keep falling for it
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Old 03-23-2017, 05:27 AM
 
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My girlfriend also f-up by coming morning hours sometimes 3 or 4 in the morning once a month on average. So, I am going to the same and even come hove 6 in the morning. If it does not bother her, I will think she is cheating, no love or care anymore.
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Old 03-23-2017, 05:27 AM
 
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Put her out once and for all.
Find someone with less drama (preferably child free) especially if you don't have any kids
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Old 03-23-2017, 05:42 AM
 
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You sound more like her father than a boyfriend.

She sounds like a kid the way she is acting. She should be a Mom.

Move on and find someone more mature.
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Old 03-23-2017, 05:58 AM
 
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Time for both of you to move on and work on behaving maturely. A committed relationship is usually more successful with individuals of similar values and goals. Seems like you are both playing games.
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Old 03-23-2017, 06:48 AM
 
Location: South Florida
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Time for both of you to move on and work on behaving maturely. A committed relationship is usually more successful with individuals of similar values and goals. Seems like you are both playing games.
This
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Old 03-23-2017, 07:03 AM
 
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It amazes me what people think are relationships.

Instead of talking with some woman you supposedly love, you throw her out of the house like some dog that piddled on the carpet because she went out with her friends? You sound like a controlling jerk and she might feel the need to sneak around to socialize because you won't "allow" her to.

Just end it and move on. And maybe learn something.
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Old 03-23-2017, 07:05 AM
 
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Ive known this girl since we were children, but started dating her again for the last 3 years. My problem was she was living with me and she would stay out to 3 oclock when she did hang with her friends, which was about every 3 months. So I would put her out and hook back up 4 or 5 days later and tell her not to do it again......she just kept messing up doing it again and again....now she doesnt do it anymore....shes in by 10 oclock now. a year ago i caught her sneaking texting her daughters father from her daughters phone asking where a party was at and that she was gonna step out. and i put her out for 2 weeks before I let her back home. My problem is she is best friends with 4 of my cousins that I barely even know. She grew up with them on the other side of town. The problem is, is that she wont let me get close to any of her family or friends. Everytime we argue she would go and tell them a whole lot of things that I said. I asked her why would You do that because if you want to marry me imma have to get close to your circle, or at least be civil with. But calling them telling them unneccessary stuff is un called for. Almost like she purposely want them to hate me. She never bring me around her family...She dont even deal with her family and they known me since childhood. She bring her friends around to say hi and then leave. 2 weeks ago I kicked her out for a week for not waking me up telling me she was leaving. I woke up not knowing if she was dead or not and it pissed me off. It seems like every 3 months she F. up.....What you think.
Hello, first-time poster.

I think, if this post is real, you need to be more selective in whom you bed. There are more important things in life than getting laid, you know. Things such as trust and self-esteem.

You really know what to do. Now the question is if you have the necessary guts to do it.
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Old 03-23-2017, 07:19 AM
 
Location: Florida
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you say "She dont even deal with her family " so where does she go when you kick her out?
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