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03-05-2008, 10:03 PM
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Location: morgantown wv
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What Makes A Makes A Mexican Man Live A Double Life
please help me release the anger of why this man refused to tell me he had a wife in Mexico and why he lived a loving relationship with me>? We had plans on marriage and moving to another state. He had to take care of some visa papers in Mexico and promised to call me. Needless to say he never has, and I found the true reason why he left, his brother told his wife that he had another woman in the US and was getting very serious with her. By the way i am not by all means a vernerable woman, I am ambitious and quite attractive who does not let men creep into her heart. Please help because this truly makes me want to hate all MEXICAN MEN.   |
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03-05-2008, 10:22 PM
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Just another C-D member
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Sherman Oaks, CA
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How long were you dating him?
Why do you think this kind of behavior is exclusive to Mexican men in particular? There are plenty of American men who have done the same thing.
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03-05-2008, 11:03 PM
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Senior Member
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Blame the "man", not his nation. Sorry about your experience, but this is just one of those "live and learn" things.
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03-05-2008, 11:27 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: MoCo, MD
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Can I get some butter with that popcorn?
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03-05-2008, 11:29 PM
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Senior Member
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Location: northeast US
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I'm a dual citizen. It's difficult having a foot in two different countries, establishing a life in a new country, choices that have to be made. Not to excuse that he took advantage of you, but as a way of understanding it.
Try not to hate him. He won't even be aware of it and it might make you become a hateful person, to your disadvantage.
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03-05-2008, 11:53 PM
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It is called "having your cake and eating it too". He wanted it all and obviously thought he'd never get caught. It has nothing to do with his race. Let him go, you deserve better!
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03-06-2008, 06:12 AM
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Senior Member
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Join Date: May 2007
Location: Life here is not an Apollo Mission. Everyone calm down.
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Quote:
Originally Posted by aTRUEwoman
please help me release the anger of why this man refused to tell me he had a wife in Mexico and why he lived a loving relationship with me>? We had plans on marriage and moving to another state. He had to take care of some visa papers in Mexico and promised to call me. Needless to say he never has, and I found the true reason why he left, his brother told his wife that he had another woman in the US and was getting very serious with her. By the way i am not by all means a vernerable woman, I am ambitious and quite attractive who does not let men creep into her heart. Please help because this truly makes me want to hate all MEXICAN MEN. |
My first question is. Were you living together and were you both employed?
Either way, you were conned and it has nothing to do with his nationality.
I have written numerous times about the bi-polar/NPD man I tried to help five years ago. He was a full time police officer, but after his third con marriage could not manage a life alone; meaning, working, paying your bills and being happy about it.
He once asked me "how" I did it. It being...living alone, working, paying my own bills, being completely responsible for my own existence. He just didn't grasp the concept of supporting yourself.
I mention this is your con man needed something from you, whether it be the roof over your head, or the padding of your second income.
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03-06-2008, 07:19 AM
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Senior Member
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Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: PA
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I echo what others have said, and that is...there are many men of many races who do the exact same thing...I'm sorry you were hurt in this way...but, in time, perhaps, you will be able to consider yourself very fortunate that you found out about this low life person who it seems doesn't have any respect for himself, let alone anyone else.
Try and move on to the tune of a lesson well learned.
sometimes when you think you've lost, you've really won!
Good luck
Creme
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03-06-2008, 08:49 PM
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Always a little confused
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Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: Miami. Florida
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Has Nothing To Do With Race
Sorry to hear about what happened to you but I definately don't think it is a nationality issue. How man men American born have double lives?? Cheating has NOTHING to do with where you were born but honesty, loyalty and some self respect, not to mention respect for those that surround you and how your actions reflect onto them.
I reiterate there are lots of MEN and WOMEN in the U.S, that cheat and they are as American as apple pie. Be greatful that it ended up how it did and you weren't a victim of bigamy.
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03-07-2008, 12:25 AM
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Taco-ness is next to Godliness.
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Richardson, TX
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A better question would be why does a dishonest man lead a double life? It has nothing to do with nationality.
Oh wait, the answer's in the question.  |
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