they did not tell you...

[The Man in SATX]

Originally Posted by DimSumRaja

no, it's not the other person's fault, it's your own fault

so I would kick myself for not taking precautions and looking after my own health

can't blame another person for this

ulitmately it is your own personal responsibility to practice and ensure safe sex, it is too important an issue, too dire of consequences to place that risk and task in someone else's care...it's like pregnancy for women, can't blame the guy if we don't take proper steps for contraception, whatever that involves.

Give me a break.. if your married to someone.. you put your trust in them to think that they are STD free. How many people do you know that are married use condoms? I bet not very many. You can blame the other person for this.. especially if they were screwing around.

[*Danielle*]

I don't know...some of those STD's can lay dormat for a long time...so a lot of factors come into play here...like what exactly is it, how long have we been married...etc etc...

BUT,,,if I ever had the feeling I was being lied to or cheated on, I would be gone in a New York minute...
He knows what kind of person I am and I don't tolerate that kind of BS.

[Dennis58]

Well, I might be wrong, but I am unaware of ANY STD that cannot be detected with proper blood tests. And, aids in particular. It can take a while to get the results back, but the point is, a couple can find this stuff out before marriage. Therefore, there should be NO excuse if the couple will have themselfs tested, and wait on the results. Also, it is a criminal offense to knowingly transfer HIV, AIDS, to another person. As for my part, I will say this. It would be MUCH better for a woman to never do this to me. If it was something that couldn't be cured, I would dedicate the rest of my life to making HER life as misirable as possible. I would even hire thugs to HELP me make her life a living hell. Thats my nickels worth!

[LovelyinLa]

Dennis,

You are not wrong, you can test positive for HIV/AIDS after 8 weeks. STD's don't lay dormat in your blood (however there's a window after infection where it will not show up). If you have it a blood test will let you know. If you're married and you know your spouse is having their annual checkups then then there's no "he didn't know he had it", chances are he just got this and unless you did a quickie Vegas wedding aren't blood tests still required in order to get marriage licenses? Isn't HIV/Aids one of the things they test for?

Anyway, unless you're one of those people who never goes to the doctor or refuses to be tested for HIV then you'll know on you're next check up if you got it. However, there are several STD's that aren't regularly checked for so it's possible that someone could be infected and not know it. Fortunately, all of these are treatable. If you're spouse comes to you and says I have HIV then you know they cheated on you and that's how they got it. If they come to you and say I have Herpes/Genital Warts/Hepatitis, it's possible they didn't know they were infected. So unless you can have their doctor produce test results that prove he/she knew they were infected years ago. They should be given the benefit of the doubt.