Is this man in his Cave or being passive aggressive? (boyfriend, long distance)
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My long distance boyfriend of over 1 year went from being loving and nice to almost cold overnight. We had a normal conversation night before but come monday he changed. For the past few weeks he has hinted that he feels I am too busy for him and or I avoid him--which I replied I always reply him and am just have a lot of work.
We had a fairly regular schedule where we would talk during my lunch break and send good morning and night texts, come monday all those stopped and all I received was simple good morning and good night text. If I would answer him he would be cold and just say something like "take care" or "have nice day." Sometimes he would respond first text quickly and then ignore my response afterwards for 4-6 hours. Now last day or two I don't even get good morning or night, but he did send me pictures of a nature walk he went on. I replied its nice. He didn't respond. Today one text " I miss u"
Honestly this type of communication isn't working for me, its big difference from how we were before, which is was so open. I plan to tell him that I need man that can communicate his needs to me and not just change overnight and think its ok to get his hurt or loss of interest across.
Is it good idea or i am overreacting and this man is just in his cave? Its been 6 days now.
My long distance boyfriend of over 1 year went from being loving and nice to almost cold overnight. We had a normal conversation night before but come monday he changed. For the past few weeks he has hinted that he feels I am too busy for him and or I avoid him--which I replied I always reply him and am just have a lot of work.
We had a fairly regular schedule where we would talk during my lunch break and send good morning and night texts, come monday all those stopped and all I received was simple good morning and good night text. If I would answer him he would be cold and just say something like "take care" or "have nice day." Sometimes he would respond first text quickly and then ignore my response afterwards for 4-6 hours. Now last day or two I don't even get good morning or night, but he did send me pictures of a nature walk he went on. I replied its nice. He didn't respond. Today one text " I miss u"
Honestly this type of communication isn't working for me, its big difference from how we were before, which is was so open. I plan to tell him that I need man that can communicate his needs to me and not just change overnight and think its ok to get his hurt or loss of interest across.
Is it good idea or i am overreacting and this man is just in his cave? Its been 6 days now.
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Yes absolutely it's a good idea if you're unhappy with things as it would make things worse by not saying anything.
Just my opinion and quite possibly out of turn but he sounds quite immature with his responses and with him thinking you're avoiding him this might just be his silly way of getting back at you as he feels hard done by ( if you see what I'm getting at? )
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This is why long-distance relationships don't work. You don't see each other much, if at all, and if one person is busy with work, there's not enough communication to sustain the relationship. The other person feels sidelined. Your bf felt he wasn't getting enough attention from you, so he decided the relationship (such as it was) wasn't working for him.
I wonder...do either of you have mutual friends, who might be trying to sabotage your relationship? I find it curious that he says he misses you, but then ignores your texts at other times. It kind of makes me wonder if someone is badmouthing you to him.
I wonder...do either of you have mutual friends, who might be trying to sabotage your relationship? I find it curious that he says he misses you, but then ignores your texts at other times. It kind of makes me wonder if someone is badmouthing you to him.
This seems like quite a leap.
More likely, after really thinking about he realized that a whole year is just too long to not see you, especially if you won't be as available (otherwise) due to work. That's a really long time to "keep the faith" especially if you didn't start the relationship as non-LDR and have a few months to build a good foundation. Did you?
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